Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How do you guys interpret this? I ask a girl out to lunch over the phone, she's very enthusiastic (as I was), and we end up having a nice time. We talked about getting together again (sitting in her car), and she asks what my number is, then says "oh, why don't you just call me, I don't really need your number". This is the same thing she had said when we talked on the phone before our first 'date'.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Hard to say what her angle is here. She could just be the type that does not like to call people or she might want you to call her. Sounds bizzare to me though.
Thanks guys. I was thinking she's
basically giving me control about when to call (or if I call). And the fact is, she does have other options - I know that and it doesn't concern me. The other interesting fact is that she genuinely seems eager for my phone #, then backs off as I've said....Maybe it's because when she asks, I always offer my office number, not my home number ( which I rarely answer)..?
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