"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've been hanging around a lady who was my wife's best friend bfore my wife died, and she made it clear she only wanted to be friends (she hsn't dated in 5 years since her div.) Now I'm dating other women and she finds something wrong with all of them.

After one lady said she was serious about me, my old friend said it surprised her to know she was depressed about it, saying she was afraid she was losing her best friend (I'm her only male friend, and she's not gay or bi, but very homophobic on religous grounds). Our mutual friends believe she is interested, but just afraid. Any opinions?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think she's either interested and will likely never act on it or she might still see you as her best friends husband and is finding faults with all your women because they are not her best friend.

My question to you is why are you such close friends with her now? What do you get from the friendship? How old are you two?
 
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I don't really know how we became so close, she was very supportive emotional when my wife passed. We're both 52, attend same church and sit together and have lunch and outings together afterward
 
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I think she wants to be friends without benefits. You would think that would mean "just friends" but it sounds as if she has a vested interest in you not finding someone who could come between your relationship with her. I'd test the theory by enlisting her help to assist you in identifying the qualities of the type of woman who would merit your character. Who knows, she may identify herself as actually being interested. Understand for this to happen she will have to deal with the personal guilt she may feel about betraying the friendship with your late wife by becoming interested in you.
 
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Great idea Francisco, especially given their age and more importantly cuz of the fact that she disapproves of his women, so now she has no excuse to disapprove.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Great idea Francisco, especially given their age and more importantly cuz of the fact that she disapproves of his women, so now she has no excuse to disapprove.
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Bingo! Call it flushing out the fox.... :up:
 
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Thanks fellas, I keep getting mixed signals from her, she says she's just being protective of me, and that she's not looking for anyone now
 
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