"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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she never takes initiative

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I got this exclusive girl that has been with me for 3 months now. She calls me all the time. So much that i don't need to call her. But everytime we see each other it's because i made a date. She has never asked me to see her anywhere except maybe once. It's like as if she could go a lifetime without seen me. Im not sure if it's a red flag because sometimes i consiously make sure not to ask her out to see if she suggest something and she dosen't. I know it's my job to make things happen, but after a while there has to be some effort on her part. WTF. thoughts?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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muzicfreak2k3

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her effort is calling you.... plenty of girls dont even do that (like the one im ogin for 4 exampl ;] ) consider yourself lucky man
 

bigmil

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my girl rarely calls. I've actaully asked her about it and she says she's just not like that -- she's always willing to hang out though. It seems a lot of girls just don't put forth that effort -- they wait for you.. YOU are the leader. You have nothing to worry about. If she's calling you then she wants to see you.
 
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