"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She kissed another guy and now is begging...

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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styleman said:
Cannot really say for sure, perhaps because I trust her less?
Trust is definitely an important thing. I have a whole theory about trust but that's another thing altogether. I'm curious though, what has she done that put her into the place of a person that you should trust. I mean since you trust her less, there must have been something that made you trust her in the first place, right?
 

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As far as i am concerned, drunk people think with sober minds. She is using the alcohol as an excuse when in actuality she wanted to do it. Now that the trust is lost, so is the relationship. Don't give her the satisfaction of sticking around.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Trust is definitely an important thing. I have a whole theory about trust but that's another thing altogether. I'm curious though, what has she done that put her into the place of a person that you should trust. I mean since you trust her less, there must have been something that made you trust her in the first place, right?
Well she says things like, I love you, you're amazing, I need you etc.
Although her actions have never built up trust, I think those kind of words have.
Also, even though she never outright said it, if she saw me talking to other girls, or if I told her about other girls I'd met, I could sense she did not like it.
So I think this made me come to the conclusion that if she does not like me doing it, it's unlikely she'd do it herself.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Bible_Belt said:
All I see here is opportunity. If you would stop boo-hooing about your feelings and give up the self-pity, you could get a lot of great sex out of this. Start fvcking her friends. When she finds out, she will forgive you, because in her mind she deserved it for cheating. She would probably throw herself at you even more. If she doesn't (she will, at least the first few times) then all of her friends will want you, anyway. But she'll know that, thus the throwing herself at you.

I dare you to take my advice.
 

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styleman said:
Well she says things like, I love you, you're amazing, I need you etc.
Although her actions have never built up trust, I think those kind of words have.
Also, even though she never outright said it, if she saw me talking to other girls, or if I told her about other girls I'd met, I could sense she did not like it.
So I think this made me come to the conclusion that if she does not like me doing it, it's unlikely she'd do it herself.
Sounds as if there are a ton of assumptions going on here on both sides. Not to say that they aren't necessarily true but the evil side of assumptions is that the person having them is the only one who knows about it. Basically it's a recipe for failure because neither side talked to the other about these things, how would you expect the other side to play if they didn't know the rules per se? You know, at least in grade school a boy and girl would pass notes back and forth in class like:
"Do you like [so-and-so]? Check YES or NO"
"Do you like me? Check YES or NO"
"Do you want to be my girlfriend? Check YES or NO"

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Yeah we're adults but come on, do we have to play games all of the time?
 

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styleman said:
Well she says things like, I love you, you're amazing, I need you etc.
Although her actions have never built up trust, I think those kind of words have.
Also, even though she never outright said it, if she saw me talking to other girls, or if I told her about other girls I'd met, I could sense she did not like it.
So I think this made me come to the conclusion that if she does not like me doing it, it's unlikely she'd do it herself.
you are not even dating her officially and she already loves you? if she loves you so much why is she going around getting drunk and kissing other guys? lol some love

kick her to the curb. or at best just use her like the ho she is if you want
 

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I dare you to take my advice.
I'm with bible on this. A lot of you all seem to have lots of anger towards women (probably because your not getting any, guys that get laid don't care about this stuff) . Women like sex as much as we do (if not more) and have TONS of options by default so obviously there going to hook up with other guys. You'd do the samething if you had women throwing themselves at you all the time. Let the emotions go, go out in the field, get your game together, and put together a team of women for whatever needs you have.
 

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She is still chasing me.... I like her... but given the circumstances, I don't know what to do...
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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styleman said:
She is still chasing me.... I like her... but given the circumstances, I don't know what to do...
Not sure what your looking for man? Your making a big fuss about a girl your not dating kissing someone else, she did nothing wrong. Now go f*ck her.
 

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EFFORT said:
Not sure what your looking for man? Your making a big fuss about a girl your not dating kissing someone else, she did nothing wrong. Now go f*ck her.
Why is she chasing me?? I don't mind ****ing her and leaving, but that is not going to work, she's too into me.
 

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She is still chasing me.... I like her... but given the circumstances, I don't know what to do...
Are you saying that you still don't know what you want? :confused:
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Are you saying that you still don't know what you want? :confused:
I know I want her in my heart, but my mind says no because she is a traitor.
 

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I know I want her in my heart, but my mind says no because she is a traitor.
I don't think you're ready for anything serious. Even if another woman was in your life, I mean you were actually dating her, I'm guessing that you would still have a general lack of trust and that would derail the relationship anyway.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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EFFORT said:
I'm with bible on this. A lot of you all seem to have lots of anger towards women (probably because your not getting any, guys that get laid don't care about this stuff) . Women like sex as much as we do (if not more) and have TONS of options by default so obviously there going to hook up with other guys. You'd do the samething if you had women throwing themselves at you all the time. Let the emotions go, go out in the field, get your game together, and put together a team of women for whatever needs you have.
Effort is saying PIMP the HOS!!!! Don't love them!!!

Hate hors - love women!!!
 
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