Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
How come?styleman said:Well I did like her a lot, this has sort of changed things.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
How come?styleman said:Well I did like her a lot, this has sort of changed things.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Cannot really say for sure, perhaps because I trust her less?Francisco d'Anconia said:How come?
Trust is definitely an important thing. I have a whole theory about trust but that's another thing altogether. I'm curious though, what has she done that put her into the place of a person that you should trust. I mean since you trust her less, there must have been something that made you trust her in the first place, right?styleman said:Cannot really say for sure, perhaps because I trust her less?
Well she says things like, I love you, you're amazing, I need you etc.Francisco d'Anconia said:Trust is definitely an important thing. I have a whole theory about trust but that's another thing altogether. I'm curious though, what has she done that put her into the place of a person that you should trust. I mean since you trust her less, there must have been something that made you trust her in the first place, right?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Bible_Belt said:All I see here is opportunity. If you would stop boo-hooing about your feelings and give up the self-pity, you could get a lot of great sex out of this. Start fvcking her friends. When she finds out, she will forgive you, because in her mind she deserved it for cheating. She would probably throw herself at you even more. If she doesn't (she will, at least the first few times) then all of her friends will want you, anyway. But she'll know that, thus the throwing herself at you.
Sounds as if there are a ton of assumptions going on here on both sides. Not to say that they aren't necessarily true but the evil side of assumptions is that the person having them is the only one who knows about it. Basically it's a recipe for failure because neither side talked to the other about these things, how would you expect the other side to play if they didn't know the rules per se? You know, at least in grade school a boy and girl would pass notes back and forth in class like:styleman said:Well she says things like, I love you, you're amazing, I need you etc.
Although her actions have never built up trust, I think those kind of words have.
Also, even though she never outright said it, if she saw me talking to other girls, or if I told her about other girls I'd met, I could sense she did not like it.
So I think this made me come to the conclusion that if she does not like me doing it, it's unlikely she'd do it herself.
you are not even dating her officially and she already loves you? if she loves you so much why is she going around getting drunk and kissing other guys? lol some lovestyleman said:Well she says things like, I love you, you're amazing, I need you etc.
Although her actions have never built up trust, I think those kind of words have.
Also, even though she never outright said it, if she saw me talking to other girls, or if I told her about other girls I'd met, I could sense she did not like it.
So I think this made me come to the conclusion that if she does not like me doing it, it's unlikely she'd do it herself.
I'm with bible on this. A lot of you all seem to have lots of anger towards women (probably because your not getting any, guys that get laid don't care about this stuff) . Women like sex as much as we do (if not more) and have TONS of options by default so obviously there going to hook up with other guys. You'd do the samething if you had women throwing themselves at you all the time. Let the emotions go, go out in the field, get your game together, and put together a team of women for whatever needs you have.Bible_Belt said:I dare you to take my advice.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Not sure what your looking for man? Your making a big fuss about a girl your not dating kissing someone else, she did nothing wrong. Now go f*ck her.styleman said:She is still chasing me.... I like her... but given the circumstances, I don't know what to do...
Why is she chasing me?? I don't mind ****ing her and leaving, but that is not going to work, she's too into me.EFFORT said:Not sure what your looking for man? Your making a big fuss about a girl your not dating kissing someone else, she did nothing wrong. Now go f*ck her.
Are you saying that you still don't know what you want?styleman said:She is still chasing me.... I like her... but given the circumstances, I don't know what to do...
I know I want her in my heart, but my mind says no because she is a traitor.Francisco d'Anconia said:Are you saying that you still don't know what you want?![]()
I don't think you're ready for anything serious. Even if another woman was in your life, I mean you were actually dating her, I'm guessing that you would still have a general lack of trust and that would derail the relationship anyway.styleman said:I know I want her in my heart, but my mind says no because she is a traitor.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Effort is saying PIMP the HOS!!!! Don't love them!!!EFFORT said:I'm with bible on this. A lot of you all seem to have lots of anger towards women (probably because your not getting any, guys that get laid don't care about this stuff) . Women like sex as much as we do (if not more) and have TONS of options by default so obviously there going to hook up with other guys. You'd do the samething if you had women throwing themselves at you all the time. Let the emotions go, go out in the field, get your game together, and put together a team of women for whatever needs you have.