"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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She keeps mentioning the word friendship.

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So, here is my problem....
Single mother girl from overseas, who works with my sister, communicates with me. However, she keeps mentioning the word friendship in her letters. Yes, we communicate in traditional way. I have told her I do not have Facebook, only Linkedin, and I hate computers. So, I wont email her. We started to communicate after I saw her with my sister in a picture. My sister broke the ice for me by handing her a letter and pic from me. So, we communicate by mail. Yesterday, I received a Christmas postcard from her, and it says.......
"Hello Dear!!
Just wanted to drop in and tell you thank you for looking out for me and offering me a friendship. You are a remarkable person and I cant wait to get to know you!
Take care and I hope you have a very merry Christmas and happy New Year. Xo ....her signature"


I don't like it when she says friendship....... I am about to hold back and slow in the rate of communication, probably , I will even ghost her azz. It bothers me when I hear women say the word "friendship and you are my friend"
:mad::mad::mad::mad:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Considering you began this exchange over mail - I think it is a little extreme to get upset that she used the word "friendship." Unless I missed it you didn't tell us what your letters said to her to begin with. If yours are plain-vanilla "get to know you" type letters then when she responds in kind I think that is understandable. It's not like you are exchanging messages over Tinder.

The fact that you are upset about this one woman who is overseas would indicate you don't have a lot of options. Remember you always need to have an abundance mentality. I would keep talking to this woman but I would also be talking to others so you don't care nearly as much as you seem to about what is said in these exchanges.
 

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So, here is my problem....
Single mother girl from overseas, who works with my sister, communicates with me. However, she keeps mentioning the word friendship in her letters. Yes, we communicate in traditional way. I have told her I do not have Facebook, only Linkedin, and I hate computers. So, I wont email her. We started to communicate after I saw her with my sister in a picture. My sister broke the ice for me by handing her a letter and pic from me. So, we communicate by mail. Yesterday, I received a Christmas postcard from her, and it says.......
"Hello Dear!!
Just wanted to drop in and tell you thank you for looking out for me and offering me a friendship. You are a remarkable person and I cant wait to get to know you!
Take care and I hope you have a very merry Christmas and happy New Year. Xo ....her signature"


I don't like it when she says friendship....... I am about to hold back and slow in the rate of communication, probably , I will even ghost her azz. It bothers me when I hear women say the word "friendship and you are my friend"
:mad::mad::mad::mad:
Why are you wasting your time talking to this woman?
 

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The way she messages in her card sounds like a female in the military scam... honestly.. of you have never met her id maybe keep messaging her but keep your eyes peeled for someone more local.

*shrugs*
 

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So, here is my problem....
Single mother girl from overseas, who works with my sister, communicates with me.
WTF? Dude, why are you putting in ANY effort on a girl like this?
Take the time instead of writing letters to a random b1tch to do a few sets of working out or looking local.
Don't take the lazy route out and have people try to set you up.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You could reply something along the lines of "since you're obviously a bit slow, I'm going to spell it out for you: the reason I'm talking to you is because I want to insert my penis into your vagina."
 

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So, here is my problem....
Single mother girl from overseas, who works with my sister, communicates with me. However, she keeps mentioning the word friendship in her letters. Yes, we communicate in traditional way. I have told her I do not have Facebook, only Linkedin, and I hate computers. So, I wont email her. We started to communicate after I saw her with my sister in a picture. My sister broke the ice for me by handing her a letter and pic from me. So, we communicate by mail. Yesterday, I received a Christmas postcard from her, and it says.......
"Hello Dear!!
Just wanted to drop in and tell you thank you for looking out for me and offering me a friendship. You are a remarkable person and I cant wait to get to know you!
Take care and I hope you have a very merry Christmas and happy New Year. Xo ....her signature"


I don't like it when she says friendship....... I am about to hold back and slow in the rate of communication, probably , I will even ghost her azz. It bothers me when I hear women say the word "friendship and you are my friend"
:mad::mad::mad::mad:
What women say is mostly irrelevant anyway. What matters is what they do.
 

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You could reply something along the lines of "since you're obviously a bit slow, I'm going to spell it out for you: the reason I'm talking to you is because I want to insert my penis into your vagina."
Wel lol maybe she will reply"my Vagina full for reservations for the next 20 of my crush and 50 acquaintance, wait my mouth stiill open for 5.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I had a woman used to constantly call me "Nice" in my early red pill days. It annoyed me as i thought it meant i was pathetic

Then i realised she used to encourage me to fck her up the Azz

plus she would offer to do anything.

dont let your insecurity control your mind.
 

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I had a woman used to constantly call me "Nice" in my early red pill days. It annoyed me as i thought it meant i was pathetic

Then i realised she used to encourage me to fck her up the Azz

plus she would offer to do anything.

dont let your insecurity control your mind.
Nice
 

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So, here is my problem....
Single mother girl from overseas, who works with my sister, communicates with me. However, she keeps mentioning the word friendship in her letters. Yes, we communicate in traditional way. I have told her I do not have Facebook, only Linkedin, and I hate computers. So, I wont email her. We started to communicate after I saw her with my sister in a picture. My sister broke the ice for me by handing her a letter and pic from me. So, we communicate by mail. Yesterday, I received a Christmas postcard from her, and it says.......
"Hello Dear!!
Just wanted to drop in and tell you thank you for looking out for me and offering me a friendship. You are a remarkable person and I cant wait to get to know you!
Take care and I hope you have a very merry Christmas and happy New Year. Xo ....her signature"


I don't like it when she says friendship....... I am about to hold back and slow in the rate of communication, probably , I will even ghost her azz. It bothers me when I hear women say the word "friendship and you are my friend"
:mad::mad::mad::mad:
She might be testing you, making a game or just being polite with you.

However, if you want something with her (and want to figure out this)... I would advise you to just be direct to her and tell her that you want something more.

Like: "I'm interested in something more than a friendship and I would like to invite you for a date."

If she refuses it or gives any excuse... Why keep wasting your precious time with her?

Some people play games, both men and women... And for whatever reason it is (diminishing yourself, ego validation or any stupid reason) we should not waste our time with them.

When a person has good intentions, the conversation tends to be clear, sincere and without games or offenses.

Anyway, this woman seems to be interested in you. Perhaps having mentioned friendship was just a polite way of writing and she may also be interested in having something more with you.

So don't panic about it. You can express your desire to have something more or simply wait for the day when you will meet in person.

The advantage of expressing what you want directly is that by the way she responds, her intentions will become clear. Then that anxiety goes away.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Stopped reading at single mom

Real talk, I like to see her say friendship with my D in her mouth.
 

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Do not ever let women's words diminish you or rock you emotionally.

I had experience of women playing the friendship card and only shut up when I gave her a mouthful of my hard warm and stinky d!ck.
 

FuzzX

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So, here is my problem....
Single mother girl from overseas
Your problem is you're fvking lazy. If you're gonna date a girl from overseas, you better go overseas to meet her. I've hooked up several of my friends with 'online' girls that I knew in real life. Do you think one of those lazy fvks would take a hiatus from work to actually go over and meet the women? Nope. These women were multi-millionaires too... There is nothing between you two right now except the printed word. That counts for nothing. If you want to meet a girl from country X, you book a flight to country X.

Don't date local, that's a totally different conversation. But for godsakes man, get up and go tour another country. How can you have ANYTHING in common other than D and P? You need to understand her culture to understand her behavior. You need to get a grasp of their language, you need to understand the country's political system, the people's motivations. You are only 41, why are you choosing a single mammy? Go get a 20 year old from Yangon once the dust settles.
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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