"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She keeps mentioning the word friendship.

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So, here is my problem....
Single mother girl from overseas, who works with my sister, communicates with me. However, she keeps mentioning the word friendship in her letters. Yes, we communicate in traditional way. I have told her I do not have Facebook, only Linkedin, and I hate computers. So, I wont email her. We started to communicate after I saw her with my sister in a picture. My sister broke the ice for me by handing her a letter and pic from me. So, we communicate by mail. Yesterday, I received a Christmas postcard from her, and it says.......
"Hello Dear!!
Just wanted to drop in and tell you thank you for looking out for me and offering me a friendship. You are a remarkable person and I cant wait to get to know you!
Take care and I hope you have a very merry Christmas and happy New Year. Xo ....her signature"


I don't like it when she says friendship....... I am about to hold back and slow in the rate of communication, probably , I will even ghost her azz. It bothers me when I hear women say the word "friendship and you are my friend"
:mad::mad::mad::mad:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Considering you began this exchange over mail - I think it is a little extreme to get upset that she used the word "friendship." Unless I missed it you didn't tell us what your letters said to her to begin with. If yours are plain-vanilla "get to know you" type letters then when she responds in kind I think that is understandable. It's not like you are exchanging messages over Tinder.

The fact that you are upset about this one woman who is overseas would indicate you don't have a lot of options. Remember you always need to have an abundance mentality. I would keep talking to this woman but I would also be talking to others so you don't care nearly as much as you seem to about what is said in these exchanges.
 

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So, here is my problem....
Single mother girl from overseas, who works with my sister, communicates with me. However, she keeps mentioning the word friendship in her letters. Yes, we communicate in traditional way. I have told her I do not have Facebook, only Linkedin, and I hate computers. So, I wont email her. We started to communicate after I saw her with my sister in a picture. My sister broke the ice for me by handing her a letter and pic from me. So, we communicate by mail. Yesterday, I received a Christmas postcard from her, and it says.......
"Hello Dear!!
Just wanted to drop in and tell you thank you for looking out for me and offering me a friendship. You are a remarkable person and I cant wait to get to know you!
Take care and I hope you have a very merry Christmas and happy New Year. Xo ....her signature"


I don't like it when she says friendship....... I am about to hold back and slow in the rate of communication, probably , I will even ghost her azz. It bothers me when I hear women say the word "friendship and you are my friend"
:mad::mad::mad::mad:
Why are you wasting your time talking to this woman?
 

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The way she messages in her card sounds like a female in the military scam... honestly.. of you have never met her id maybe keep messaging her but keep your eyes peeled for someone more local.

*shrugs*
 

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So, here is my problem....
Single mother girl from overseas, who works with my sister, communicates with me.
WTF? Dude, why are you putting in ANY effort on a girl like this?
Take the time instead of writing letters to a random b1tch to do a few sets of working out or looking local.
Don't take the lazy route out and have people try to set you up.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You could reply something along the lines of "since you're obviously a bit slow, I'm going to spell it out for you: the reason I'm talking to you is because I want to insert my penis into your vagina."
 

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So, here is my problem....
Single mother girl from overseas, who works with my sister, communicates with me. However, she keeps mentioning the word friendship in her letters. Yes, we communicate in traditional way. I have told her I do not have Facebook, only Linkedin, and I hate computers. So, I wont email her. We started to communicate after I saw her with my sister in a picture. My sister broke the ice for me by handing her a letter and pic from me. So, we communicate by mail. Yesterday, I received a Christmas postcard from her, and it says.......
"Hello Dear!!
Just wanted to drop in and tell you thank you for looking out for me and offering me a friendship. You are a remarkable person and I cant wait to get to know you!
Take care and I hope you have a very merry Christmas and happy New Year. Xo ....her signature"


I don't like it when she says friendship....... I am about to hold back and slow in the rate of communication, probably , I will even ghost her azz. It bothers me when I hear women say the word "friendship and you are my friend"
:mad::mad::mad::mad:
What women say is mostly irrelevant anyway. What matters is what they do.
 

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You could reply something along the lines of "since you're obviously a bit slow, I'm going to spell it out for you: the reason I'm talking to you is because I want to insert my penis into your vagina."
Wel lol maybe she will reply"my Vagina full for reservations for the next 20 of my crush and 50 acquaintance, wait my mouth stiill open for 5.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I had a woman used to constantly call me "Nice" in my early red pill days. It annoyed me as i thought it meant i was pathetic

Then i realised she used to encourage me to fck her up the Azz

plus she would offer to do anything.

dont let your insecurity control your mind.
 

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I had a woman used to constantly call me "Nice" in my early red pill days. It annoyed me as i thought it meant i was pathetic

Then i realised she used to encourage me to fck her up the Azz

plus she would offer to do anything.

dont let your insecurity control your mind.
Nice
 

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So, here is my problem....
Single mother girl from overseas, who works with my sister, communicates with me. However, she keeps mentioning the word friendship in her letters. Yes, we communicate in traditional way. I have told her I do not have Facebook, only Linkedin, and I hate computers. So, I wont email her. We started to communicate after I saw her with my sister in a picture. My sister broke the ice for me by handing her a letter and pic from me. So, we communicate by mail. Yesterday, I received a Christmas postcard from her, and it says.......
"Hello Dear!!
Just wanted to drop in and tell you thank you for looking out for me and offering me a friendship. You are a remarkable person and I cant wait to get to know you!
Take care and I hope you have a very merry Christmas and happy New Year. Xo ....her signature"


I don't like it when she says friendship....... I am about to hold back and slow in the rate of communication, probably , I will even ghost her azz. It bothers me when I hear women say the word "friendship and you are my friend"
:mad::mad::mad::mad:
She might be testing you, making a game or just being polite with you.

However, if you want something with her (and want to figure out this)... I would advise you to just be direct to her and tell her that you want something more.

Like: "I'm interested in something more than a friendship and I would like to invite you for a date."

If she refuses it or gives any excuse... Why keep wasting your precious time with her?

Some people play games, both men and women... And for whatever reason it is (diminishing yourself, ego validation or any stupid reason) we should not waste our time with them.

When a person has good intentions, the conversation tends to be clear, sincere and without games or offenses.

Anyway, this woman seems to be interested in you. Perhaps having mentioned friendship was just a polite way of writing and she may also be interested in having something more with you.

So don't panic about it. You can express your desire to have something more or simply wait for the day when you will meet in person.

The advantage of expressing what you want directly is that by the way she responds, her intentions will become clear. Then that anxiety goes away.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DEEZEDBRAH

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Stopped reading at single mom

Real talk, I like to see her say friendship with my D in her mouth.
 

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Do not ever let women's words diminish you or rock you emotionally.

I had experience of women playing the friendship card and only shut up when I gave her a mouthful of my hard warm and stinky d!ck.
 

FuzzX

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So, here is my problem....
Single mother girl from overseas
Your problem is you're fvking lazy. If you're gonna date a girl from overseas, you better go overseas to meet her. I've hooked up several of my friends with 'online' girls that I knew in real life. Do you think one of those lazy fvks would take a hiatus from work to actually go over and meet the women? Nope. These women were multi-millionaires too... There is nothing between you two right now except the printed word. That counts for nothing. If you want to meet a girl from country X, you book a flight to country X.

Don't date local, that's a totally different conversation. But for godsakes man, get up and go tour another country. How can you have ANYTHING in common other than D and P? You need to understand her culture to understand her behavior. You need to get a grasp of their language, you need to understand the country's political system, the people's motivations. You are only 41, why are you choosing a single mammy? Go get a 20 year old from Yangon once the dust settles.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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