I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I actually would love to get better at everything, life is about constant improvement, no one is perfect. I would not be on this site if I thought I was so great. So any advice that is given in a constructive manner and is not a personnal attack made to look like an advice is greatly appreciated. I understand, I might have to work on some stuff, which I don't mind doingUnless you want to better your "text-game" (which signs suggest that you don't) said:
Good luck getting that on this site.any advice that is given in a constructive manner and is not a personnal attack made to look like an advice is greatly appreciated
Some people are clueless/unaware because their egos won't let them walk away.When a girl uses only single word replies.. She is overtly telling you, that your are not a Priority!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'm guessing you meant Gauging interest level?Guaging interest level is not something daddy taught you. Go back to playing with your toys.
Apparently it is Ops own fault.. He deserves to be treated in this obnoxious manner by her, because he isn't trying hard enough!One liners means low interest, so move on. Would she give one-liners to Lebron James or Tom Brady? Hell no.
This is why you should ask her out early. Anything other than a yes with the proper backing actions is a no, and warrants an automatic delete.
People speak from experience here. Those guys don't want to just be friends or some other beta role. Second place is first loser, meaning you either be beta or nothing to her. Being nothing is better even though you didn't get the girl.
That's a terrible example because it's not a boring lazy question, the only flaw is that the answer is kinda obvious and there aren't that many choicesIn guy talk, have you ever had that one annoying mate who would constantly ask inane questions? Such as: "if there were a dinosuar walking down this road right now, what would you do?"
Gets tiring. Sucks the life out of you. Value mooching.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.