B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I said "hit me up if you change your mind" and she hasnt responded. Its been three days now. Will it ever be ok to text her again in the future something like "how u doin?"
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She hasn't replied in 3 days
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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
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B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
That text was so fvcking stupid man. I could of asked her how she's doing in a couple of weeks. I bet she would have responded. Fvck corey wayne.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Jerking my dik? Change my handle? Explain
Is this a new girl you just started talking too ?If so I wouldn't really give a sh!t,I am not outcome based when it comes to women,I would wait another couple days then call her out of the blue or text...if no answer then ghost her azz......do not block her !
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
dated her for 3 months
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
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Sure doesn't sound like it. If you were really dating this broad for 3 months, you should be comfortable enough to call her rather than get worked up over something like this.
I still wouldn't give a sh!t,grab your nuts and call her up,practice those conversational skills.
lizardking82
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You're not busy enough in your life. I bet you're under 30. Where are your goals and your dreams? You seem emotionally distressed about some broad you've been dating for 3 months...not good.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I am under 30. My goal is to be a police officer. I've already taken the written test and I'm in school earning the 60 credits I need for day of hire. I have not much of a social life and I just want one more chance to get her back that's all. I learned from my mistakes.
lizardking82
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I understand how you feel. This is not about getting this one back or any other woman. This is about the mindset. You don't need to get this one back. You think that by getting her back, your social life will get better. It won't, trust me. Your social life gets better when you get better. Work hard, ***** will follow 
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I agree with you and am working to change my mindset but I still want her back cause I like her and lost her over fvcking stupidity...I understand how you feel. This is not about getting this one back or any other woman. This is about the mindset. You don't need to get this one back. You think that by getting her back, your social life will get better. It won't, trust me. Your social life gets better when you get better. Work hard, ***** will follow
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I really wish I didn't send that "hit me up if you change your mind" text because I gave her all the fvcking control! Had I left her the last one to text, I could have checked in a week or two
Mate you have to not give a ****....but really not give a ****.
Mate I've so many invites to so many parties......whant to know something? Reykhel is drunk and guarenteed......I'
sazc
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So your exit text was "hit me up if you change your mind". I assume the changing your mind part was about dating you?
She hasn't hit you up - this means she hasn't changed her mind.
1) You cant make the first move. If you do it's like acquiescing to her frame.
2) understand that the reasons you are no longer together did not magically dissipate in the 3 months you haven't been together. Whatever the issues are, they still exist and they still make you incompatible.
I'm guessing that you are stuck in the type of limbo that compels you to look backward to resurrect a relationship, rather then put the effort into dating and possibly fleshing out a new female.....? Everyone goes thru that.
Be strong. She's not coming back. Find new females.
She hasn't hit you up - this means she hasn't changed her mind.
1) You cant make the first move. If you do it's like acquiescing to her frame.
2) understand that the reasons you are no longer together did not magically dissipate in the 3 months you haven't been together. Whatever the issues are, they still exist and they still make you incompatible.
I'm guessing that you are stuck in the type of limbo that compels you to look backward to resurrect a relationship, rather then put the effort into dating and possibly fleshing out a new female.....? Everyone goes thru that.
Be strong. She's not coming back. Find new females.
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Erase, replace, case closed.
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B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
How do you know? It's only been three days since I sent that text. Last time I saw her was a little less than two weeks ago, not three months. We're not incompatible. I acted like an a$$hole with her and paid the price. But karma can get her back. I know it can. Yea that was my exit text. No other women sorry. Self improvement, determination, withstand temporary pain = my game plan
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I played games with her cause I was weird for some reason. I wouldn'
Do it again. I blame demonic possession
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
You've left it up to her to get back with you. Be true to your word and if she never gets back with you... well.
Imagine it's over, go find more girls. Forget about this one. If she comes around great, but don't count on it.
Imagine it's over, go find more girls. Forget about this one. If she comes around great, but don't count on it.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
See I wish I didn't leave it up to her. I could have let her had the last word and hit her up later. Do you think I did the wrong thing? And if she doesnt get back to me, hit her up in a month?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.