B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I said "hit me up if you change your mind" and she hasnt responded. Its been three days now. Will it ever be ok to text her again in the future something like "how u doin?"
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She hasn't replied in 3 days
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
That text was so fvcking stupid man. I could of asked her how she's doing in a couple of weeks. I bet she would have responded. Fvck corey wayne.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Jerking my dik? Change my handle? Explain
Is this a new girl you just started talking too ?If so I wouldn't really give a sh!t,I am not outcome based when it comes to women,I would wait another couple days then call her out of the blue or text...if no answer then ghost her azz......do not block her !
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
dated her for 3 months
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Sure doesn't sound like it. If you were really dating this broad for 3 months, you should be comfortable enough to call her rather than get worked up over something like this.
I still wouldn't give a sh!t,grab your nuts and call her up,practice those conversational skills.
lizardking82
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You're not busy enough in your life. I bet you're under 30. Where are your goals and your dreams? You seem emotionally distressed about some broad you've been dating for 3 months...not good.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I am under 30. My goal is to be a police officer. I've already taken the written test and I'm in school earning the 60 credits I need for day of hire. I have not much of a social life and I just want one more chance to get her back that's all. I learned from my mistakes.
lizardking82
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I understand how you feel. This is not about getting this one back or any other woman. This is about the mindset. You don't need to get this one back. You think that by getting her back, your social life will get better. It won't, trust me. Your social life gets better when you get better. Work hard, ***** will follow 
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I agree with you and am working to change my mindset but I still want her back cause I like her and lost her over fvcking stupidity...I understand how you feel. This is not about getting this one back or any other woman. This is about the mindset. You don't need to get this one back. You think that by getting her back, your social life will get better. It won't, trust me. Your social life gets better when you get better. Work hard, ***** will follow
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I really wish I didn't send that "hit me up if you change your mind" text because I gave her all the fvcking control! Had I left her the last one to text, I could have checked in a week or two
Mate you have to not give a ****....but really not give a ****.
Mate I've so many invites to so many parties......whant to know something? Reykhel is drunk and guarenteed......I'
sazc
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So your exit text was "hit me up if you change your mind". I assume the changing your mind part was about dating you?
She hasn't hit you up - this means she hasn't changed her mind.
1) You cant make the first move. If you do it's like acquiescing to her frame.
2) understand that the reasons you are no longer together did not magically dissipate in the 3 months you haven't been together. Whatever the issues are, they still exist and they still make you incompatible.
I'm guessing that you are stuck in the type of limbo that compels you to look backward to resurrect a relationship, rather then put the effort into dating and possibly fleshing out a new female.....? Everyone goes thru that.
Be strong. She's not coming back. Find new females.
She hasn't hit you up - this means she hasn't changed her mind.
1) You cant make the first move. If you do it's like acquiescing to her frame.
2) understand that the reasons you are no longer together did not magically dissipate in the 3 months you haven't been together. Whatever the issues are, they still exist and they still make you incompatible.
I'm guessing that you are stuck in the type of limbo that compels you to look backward to resurrect a relationship, rather then put the effort into dating and possibly fleshing out a new female.....? Everyone goes thru that.
Be strong. She's not coming back. Find new females.
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Erase, replace, case closed.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
How do you know? It's only been three days since I sent that text. Last time I saw her was a little less than two weeks ago, not three months. We're not incompatible. I acted like an a$$hole with her and paid the price. But karma can get her back. I know it can. Yea that was my exit text. No other women sorry. Self improvement, determination, withstand temporary pain = my game plan
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I played games with her cause I was weird for some reason. I wouldn'
Do it again. I blame demonic possession
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
You've left it up to her to get back with you. Be true to your word and if she never gets back with you... well.
Imagine it's over, go find more girls. Forget about this one. If she comes around great, but don't count on it.
Imagine it's over, go find more girls. Forget about this one. If she comes around great, but don't count on it.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
See I wish I didn't leave it up to her. I could have let her had the last word and hit her up later. Do you think I did the wrong thing? And if she doesnt get back to me, hit her up in a month?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.