"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She has a boyfriend, but offers to buy me dinner?

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This old college girl I knew ended up moving to my town several months ago, so we got drinks to "catch up". Though she had the perfect looks, personality, and similar interests as me, she dropped the bomb that she had a long-term boyfriend. I decided to not meet up with her anymore after that (despite the grandiose plans she had for the both of us to go to concerts, movies, fairs, etc.) because it would be a waste of my time.

Fast forward to more than 5 months later. I fell into 2 tickets for a concert for one of her favorite musicians (and one of mine too.) I remember from the conversation we had months earlier how much she liked the musician, so I texted her and asked her if she wanted to go.

Of course she did, and then after saying that, she said that she'd buy me dinner sometime and we can finally hang out again (smileys all over, of course).

Concert got canceled. So.....should I read anything into her wanting to buy me dinner or just let this be?

Should probably also say that her boyfriend lives out of state (and is real). She might just be lonely.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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YAboi said:
you are secretly hoping that something happens between the two of you. Be honest with yourself, man up , show some integrity and go after what you want in life. We can't analyze a girl we don't know anything about. ..
I'm not denying it. I just don't know whether to pursue because of the boyfriend part. I don't want to become one of those "surrogate" boyfriends while her boyfriend is away and then he visits and reaps the benefits.
 

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though I would guess she was trying to break from her BF as long she ahve something else to go, and hey if she want to pay you dinner let her, normally is teh guys who does that, try to even the field a little
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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teddy said:
I'm not denying it. I just don't know whether to pursue because of the boyfriend part. I don't want to become one of those "surrogate" boyfriends while her boyfriend is away and then he visits and reaps the benefits.
Nothing wrong with having a fück buddy, man. That's the best you'll probably get out of this relationship. From years of doing the right thing, I will no longer condemn anyone from banging a chick that wants to be banged. Always go for the gold, life's too short.

Otherwise, just let it go and find an available chick.
 

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I think all of you have given me good advice. I'm still trying to kill the AFC within me. It's become easier for girls I don't give a **** about, but for girls that I may like just a little, that's the next step.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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