"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She has a boyfriend, but offers to buy me dinner?

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This old college girl I knew ended up moving to my town several months ago, so we got drinks to "catch up". Though she had the perfect looks, personality, and similar interests as me, she dropped the bomb that she had a long-term boyfriend. I decided to not meet up with her anymore after that (despite the grandiose plans she had for the both of us to go to concerts, movies, fairs, etc.) because it would be a waste of my time.

Fast forward to more than 5 months later. I fell into 2 tickets for a concert for one of her favorite musicians (and one of mine too.) I remember from the conversation we had months earlier how much she liked the musician, so I texted her and asked her if she wanted to go.

Of course she did, and then after saying that, she said that she'd buy me dinner sometime and we can finally hang out again (smileys all over, of course).

Concert got canceled. So.....should I read anything into her wanting to buy me dinner or just let this be?

Should probably also say that her boyfriend lives out of state (and is real). She might just be lonely.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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YAboi said:
you are secretly hoping that something happens between the two of you. Be honest with yourself, man up , show some integrity and go after what you want in life. We can't analyze a girl we don't know anything about. ..
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I'm not denying it. I just don't know whether to pursue because of the boyfriend part. I don't want to become one of those "surrogate" boyfriends while her boyfriend is away and then he visits and reaps the benefits.
 
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though I would guess she was trying to break from her BF as long she ahve something else to go, and hey if she want to pay you dinner let her, normally is teh guys who does that, try to even the field a little
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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teddy said:
I'm not denying it. I just don't know whether to pursue because of the boyfriend part. I don't want to become one of those "surrogate" boyfriends while her boyfriend is away and then he visits and reaps the benefits.
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Nothing wrong with having a fück buddy, man. That's the best you'll probably get out of this relationship. From years of doing the right thing, I will no longer condemn anyone from banging a chick that wants to be banged. Always go for the gold, life's too short.

Otherwise, just let it go and find an available chick.
 
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I think all of you have given me good advice. I'm still trying to kill the AFC within me. It's become easier for girls I don't give a **** about, but for girls that I may like just a little, that's the next step.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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