"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She gave me a 'side hug'...however she's agreed to go out again?

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Had a first date with this girl I've known for a while...I went in to hug her as we greeted..and she turned her body to one side so we huged with our hips side by side...(yeah really weird). Kinda threw me off my game for a bit but I tried to recover and save face.

She emails me the next day...and we're going out again soon....

Why would she want to go out again if she's not even comfortable with a normal hug?....Am I toast here?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You are reading into a hug too much.

Stay in your own frame.

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Jay Jay said:
You are reading into a hug too much.

Stay in your own frame.

JJ
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i'm reading too much into it huh

stay in your own frame?
 
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I think you're reading too much into it too. She's not ready for a full body contact hug. But, she's cool with you being in each others space. And, she wants to go out again.. so what's the problem? You're being treated fine, and it's progressing.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I generally agree with the others. You don't have to fuvk or kiss a girl during the first time you meet her for it to go anywhere. Just build the tension up slowly and if she is attracted, it will all fall together as she gets comfortable.
 
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Except this time around, hang out with her like you would with a buddy. She probably saw you trying to get intimate and stuff but she threw a wrench in the mix, now it's your turn.
 
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I'd totally give her a side-hug too next time u guys hug... and poke fun at it... be like "oh, I thought the side-hug was your speciality"...just be goofy/funny, etc, and she'll probably enjoy it and feel more comfy with you.

Ya and I think these guys are right about you over-analyzing...just get out there and have FUN!
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Jay Jay said:
You are reading into a hug too much.

Stay in your own frame.

JJ
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I don't know. I would first consider what they did on their previous date. Specifically, how much money he spent on her.
 
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