"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She gave me a 'side hug'...however she's agreed to go out again?

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Had a first date with this girl I've known for a while...I went in to hug her as we greeted..and she turned her body to one side so we huged with our hips side by side...(yeah really weird). Kinda threw me off my game for a bit but I tried to recover and save face.

She emails me the next day...and we're going out again soon....

Why would she want to go out again if she's not even comfortable with a normal hug?....Am I toast here?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jay Jay

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You are reading into a hug too much.

Stay in your own frame.

JJ
 
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Jay Jay said:
You are reading into a hug too much.

Stay in your own frame.

JJ
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i'm reading too much into it huh

stay in your own frame?
 
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I think you're reading too much into it too. She's not ready for a full body contact hug. But, she's cool with you being in each others space. And, she wants to go out again.. so what's the problem? You're being treated fine, and it's progressing.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I generally agree with the others. You don't have to fuvk or kiss a girl during the first time you meet her for it to go anywhere. Just build the tension up slowly and if she is attracted, it will all fall together as she gets comfortable.
 
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Except this time around, hang out with her like you would with a buddy. She probably saw you trying to get intimate and stuff but she threw a wrench in the mix, now it's your turn.
 
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I'd totally give her a side-hug too next time u guys hug... and poke fun at it... be like "oh, I thought the side-hug was your speciality"...just be goofy/funny, etc, and she'll probably enjoy it and feel more comfy with you.

Ya and I think these guys are right about you over-analyzing...just get out there and have FUN!
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Jay Jay said:
You are reading into a hug too much.

Stay in your own frame.

JJ
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I don't know. I would first consider what they did on their previous date. Specifically, how much money he spent on her.
 
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