"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Date went quite well.

Dinner was very engaging. We always have plenty to talk about. My C+F has gotten really good (without seeming like I'm trying too hard). I also made sure to kino her a bit.

The movie was even better. Shrek 4 is a great date movie BTW. Fun and light-hearted and the whole plot is about the two main characters having a magical kiss. Way more kino during the film.

I took note of her body language and looked for IOIs, green lights all-around. And yes, I kiss closed.
 

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Good for you man. Live and learn, its the only way. Now to take it to the next level....
 

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tsmith2334 said:
Date went quite well.

Dinner was very engaging. We always have plenty to talk about. My C+F has gotten really good (without seeming like I'm trying too hard). I also made sure to kino her a bit.

The movie was even better. Shrek 4 is a great date movie BTW. Fun and light-hearted and the whole plot is about the two main characters having a magical kiss. Way more kino during the film.

I took note of her body language and looked for IOIs, green lights all-around. And yes, I kiss closed.
Haha, funny how the naysayers dissapear pretty quickly. I'm just gonna take this one from here. But thanks everybody for the feedback (good or bad)
 

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I guess you can continue the celebration dance. "several dates over a course of a couple of years, and now you got the ultimate... kiss close".

He!! you are on the fast track now. Maybe in a year or two, you can grab her breast... under the sweater!!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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tsmith2334 said:
Date went quite well.

Dinner was very engaging. We always have plenty to talk about. My C+F has gotten really good (without seeming like I'm trying too hard). I also made sure to kino her a bit.

The movie was even better. Shrek 4 is a great date movie BTW. Fun and light-hearted and the whole plot is about the two main characters having a magical kiss. Way more kino during the film.

I took note of her body language and looked for IOIs, green lights all-around. And yes, I kiss closed.

How much money did you spend on this date? Not hating at all, just a simple question.
 

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How much money did you spend on this date? Not hating at all, just a simple question.
$0

Bought dinner using a gift car I got for Christmas (specific to the restaurant, not a cash gift card) and our theater does Free Ticket Tuesday if you subscribe to a certain cable company (hence setting the date up for Tuesday). Being that the movie was in 3D we had to pay $3.50 extra for the glasses, which she paid for (since I "treated" dinner on the gift card).

Altogether it would have been under $40, but it ended up costing me $0 (which she knew going in) and her $7.
 

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tsmith2334 said:
Date went quite well.

Dinner was very engaging. We always have plenty to talk about. My C+F has gotten really good (without seeming like I'm trying too hard). I also made sure to kino her a bit.

The movie was even better. Shrek 4 is a great date movie BTW. Fun and light-hearted and the whole plot is about the two main characters having a magical kiss. Way more kino during the film.

I took note of her body language and looked for IOIs, green lights all-around. And yes, I kiss closed.
Ok,you went out on a date with her and it went well.


So now what? I remember somewhere in an earlier post of yours where you said something about "turning it into something more".


What did you mean by that? Having sex? Becoming boyfriend and girlfriend? Getting engaged? I always thought it was odd of how you planned on going from trying to decide whether or not to flake on this girl,to trying to "make something more" with her just like that,but whatever man.




Well you got your date and she didn't flake. Cool :cool:.



Did the subject of her flaking (or cancelling) on you the two previous times ever come up?
 
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$0

Bought dinner using a gift car I got for Christmas (specific to the restaurant, not a cash gift card) and our theater does Free Ticket Tuesday if you subscribe to a certain cable company (hence setting the date up for Tuesday). Being that the movie was in 3D we had to pay $3.50 extra for the glasses, which she paid for (since I "treated" dinner on the gift card).

Altogether it would have been under $40, but it ended up costing me $0 (which she knew going in) and her $7.

EXCELLENT!

Just want I wanted to hear!!

And keep in mind for future reference, the only $$ you need to ever spend on this girl would be for wine to get her tipsy, and for condoms to keep yourself protected........otherwise, as long as you are fun, sexual, and dominant, you should be able to seduce her into fvcking in no time!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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You better start savin up for a condom. At the breakneck speed you are movin... in 2 or 3 short years you are gonna need it! :crackup:
 

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You better start savin up for a condom. At the breakneck speed you are movin... in 2 or 3 short years you are gonna need it! :crackup:
Nothing but bullies and negativity on here, I swear. Weren't you the same person swearing up and down I wouldn't kiss close?

Can I ask why you feel the need to make such comments? May I ask what you're try to accomplish? Is it because you're 54 and bitter?

I feel bad that you feel the need to belittle others due to your own insecurities.
 

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Haha, funny how the naysayers dissapear pretty quickly. I'm just gonna take this one from here. But thanks everybody for the feedback (good or bad)
LOL. It's more like "You can lead a horse to water..."

:D

We've told you. You've refused to listen. There's not much we can add, is there? ;)
 

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LOL. It's more like "You can lead a horse to water..."

:D

We've told you. You've refused to listen. There's not much we can add, is there? ;)
Do you not read?

The naysayers said there was no chance she'd show up, let alone be interested or that I could close.

They were wrong on all fronts.
 

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What exactly was your goal here? To get a kiss so you can come back here and be a diva about it? Who's being negative?

Sh*t often times doesn't work out in real life the way SS says it will. I think we all realize that. That being said, you got a kiss. You didn't 'win' something, and you're better off without that mentality, trust me. Whoever shall exalt himself, shall be humbled, YO.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So you proved them wrong. Congrats.

You're still missing the bigger picture. But, like I said, I'll just go ahead and wish you good luck man!
 

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That being said, you got a kiss. You didn't 'win' something, and you're better off without that mentality, trust me. Whoever shall exalt himself, shall be humbled, YO.
Damn dude, fair point. Interesting stuff. Repped.
 

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Show me where I said this:
I swear. Weren't you the same person swearing up and down I wouldn't kiss close?

Now this is what I said:
You're boring her to death. moving too slow. What part of: "make the hoe say no", don't you understand??

You dont really listen attentively. I was playfully trying to lite a fire under you a$$. You are moving too slow, and she is gonna see you as a nice guy / friend.

I'm not bitter at all bro, just teasing a little.
 

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I was playfully trying to lite a fire under you a$$. You are moving too slow, and she is gonna see you as a nice guy / friend.
Thanks man, I appreciate it. Repped.

That said, I've spent way too much time on what should just be considered a standard date.

Right now my only goal is to spin plates (whether it's her or someone else) and to have fun. I really can't argue with anyone who says I'm over-thinking it, so this is the last you'll hear from me on this particular girl.

If I can't get my mentality where it needs to be the women (and happiness) won't follow.

So it works out with her, great. If not, on to the next one.

Thanks everyone for your input, and Joe Stud thanks for the kick in the ass.

Smith
 

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You are young yet, my friend Smitty... you will do fine. Moving in the right direction. God Bless.

BTW... i already repped you for the story, details, and results reporting :)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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