I'm trying to advance my relationship with a girl by using kino. Everything is great with her, she is always smiling and talking to me, but everytime i touch her, she jumps up and like makes some movement to let me know she is uncomfortable or that she doesn't like it. For example, whenever i touch her hair, she will jump back and i asked her why and she said that she doesnt want me to put anything in her hair or her hooded sweatshirt. What should I do?
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
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The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
she doesnt like kino
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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lots of girls are very self concious of their hair, they think you will mess it up if you touch it. so try kino away from hair, and if she doesn't like that, well then either shes weird or she doesn't think of you more than a friend.
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Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Also, are you guys normally in public or are you guys alone when this happens?KillaCam said:
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There's a few things that it could be:
1) Like everyone else has mentioned, she doesn't like her being touched, becuase she's self-conscious about having messy hair.
2) She doesn't like you
3) She has low self-esteem in general
4) She may have a history of sexual abuse (many women in this category don't like being touched - could be body part specific)
If the reason is #2, #3, or #4, you may want to re-consider pursuing this girl.
1) Like everyone else has mentioned, she doesn't like her being touched, becuase she's self-conscious about having messy hair.
2) She doesn't like you
3) She has low self-esteem in general
4) She may have a history of sexual abuse (many women in this category don't like being touched - could be body part specific)
If the reason is #2, #3, or #4, you may want to re-consider pursuing this girl.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Distant Light
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When you first met how how much touching was going on? From day 1 you should be cutting space and getting touching going on as soon as possible.
Use push/pull, and also great to touch on high notes and when you have her laughing.
Use push/pull, and also great to touch on high notes and when you have her laughing.
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
Freddy1 said:
I do this every now and then
Me: Dude, you wanna fight?
Her: Let's go
(I then put up my fists as if I'm going to fight, and maybe tap her in the stomach with my fist, to which she usually plays along)
i hate all these kino guides they make everything too complicated. do what you want when you want to, if you display enough confidence it doesnt matter what you do, give her a hug high five, or my favorite if theres any music grab her hand spind her and do a fake ballroom dance or something, its hilarious ****.