So forgetting to do something for him and apologizing (which she did) means low attraction to him?My point is that women do those things with no repercussions. It's an expected occurrence in relationships. "Sh!t Tests" wouldn't be a term otherwise. Secksual frustration also wouldn't be a one sided thing. The majority of silence and distance and breakups in relationships wouldn't be so one sided. I guarantee you have done these things as well, and us men are just supposed to sit there and take it.
OP overreacted a bit in my opinion. But it's no different than a female acting like a female in a relationship. Men are allowed to fvck up too. However it's just not nearly as commonly accepted. The thing now is that OP cannot do anything about his past actions. He has no ability to go back and change what he has done. So he needs to wait for his GF to come to him. Anything overtly (like apologize, buy flowers to say sorry, over pursue to see her and "make it up") he does now will only serve to lose attraction in her.
Hit the reset button. OP was probably frustrated originally with her forgetting to do what he asked, but he wasn't willing to break up with her for it. He probably still really likes her, which is where the frustration comes from. Now, if she breaks up with him for his frustration then she never really cared all that much.
That's the thing about communication in relationships. If attraction levels are high, you can communicate all you want. Attraction levels are high (or even increasing) even if she is angry, upset, crying, yelling, etc. A man should intuitively know if she still has high attraction. Sit her down and tell her why/how she messed up or vice versa. But if attraction levels are low or lowering (which is what I gather from the female perspective in this situation) then overt communication will only continue the trend. And if any man wants to know when attraction levels are decreasing, just trust your gut. I could tell you to watch out for any number of signs, but your best indicator is your instinct.
There should always be repercussions for bad behaviour, next a girl who shows disrespect and doesn’t care that it bothers you. Withholding sex to control behaviour is a sign of disrespect for sure. So is withholding affection to control behaviour. If any man or woman does that in a relationship as a first response rather than communicating, that man or woman is not ready to be in a relationship.
And if you expect everything to be a sh*t, then guess what, everything will seem like a sh*t test lol.
I’m not saying don’t be mindful but there has to be a balance between being mindful and assuming that her actions are automatically sh*t tests.
In this case. His gf, who he himself said does everything for him, forgot to do one thing, apologized, and he continued to be mad. He even acknowledged himself that he may have overreacted.
If your gf continued to be mad after you forgot to do something and you apologized, honestly, how would you feel and what would you say to her?