So me and this girl were sitting in the car and she kept saying "tell me what you think about me, I want to know, what are your intentions" and stuff. so I finally told her yeah I have feelings for her blah blah. cause earlier in the night she LJBF me and I told her "yeah I just want to be your friend to, me and you could never date" but then throughout the night its obvious that we both like each other. we' re just telling ourselves we can't like each other because she doesn't want to feel like a slut since she met me thru her boyfriend who shes breaking up with. she was like "i wish i met you before i knew him. everything would be so much better" but she just cant accept the fact that she's moving from 1 friend to another friend. So yea last night I told her yea I have feelings for her and that shes different from other girls, etc. Now do I just cut all contacts with her and if she is interested in me, she'll contact me. If not, then I know my answer. I don't want to come across as desperate and needy.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She begged me to tell her how I felt about her now do I just cut contact with her?
- Thread starter baurman
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Senior Don Juan
Dawg, if she's torn between you and a friend, how is she different from other girls?
Alright, surprisingly, she called me tonight around 10. She was like "just wanted to see if you're still alive" lol. but then she was askiing what I was doing tonight I said not much I need to get some rest as I work tomorrow and I asked if she works tomorrow she said she does. then i ask her out for tomorrow and she gives me the "im not sure. ill have to think about it" but i think shes just messing around. do I call her tomorrow afternoon or what?
she must be semi-interested in me seeing as she called me back tonight. what do I do next?
she must be semi-interested in me seeing as she called me back tonight. what do I do next?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.