Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Believe it or not, women aren't THAT hard to understand. Let me know what you think of D.D.'s ebooks, there are a few others authors who you could learn allot from.chandidas said:thanks!!!
i think i gave up on trying to 'understand' women! lol
Maybe unnecessary by your definition but what makes you think that she would change if she was always this way? You saw it, you chose accept it. The question now is whether or not either of you are willing to be reasonable.******* said:always...but before it was reasonable. Now, after so many months it's just unnesesary.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How the ****' does meeting her parents makes me think im a pimp??? If i though it was "ight" then why would i make a post about it??? You sound like an idiot. But anyways......Hitman10000 said:Seems like you've already voiced out your opinion about how she's having conversations and she still is being secretive.
It's not going to get any better.
You rationalize because you've met her parents, you think you're pimp and it's "aight". I don't think so. When someone is comfortable/trustful/anonymous with another person, they tell it all. Dunno about you, but I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where I didn't feel comfortable with someone else who wasn't that comfortable with me.
If you've already "genuinely" offered to be her soft place to fall, the only other thing you can do is to be patient. As long as she isn't impeding on your livelihood you shouldn't have a problem.******* said:...
francisco....
I told her something along those lines. she already knows how i feel and said she agrees that she should be able to tell me anything and will try. Don't know how much time to give her.