"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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shadiness?

xdreamz

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my dad met this girl on the internet 2 years ago...and slowly they have came together as a couple and she is now living in my dads house with her son....


just a little question, if she's talking to someone late at night at 4 am saying stuff like "yea uh huh huh uh huh", i might be overanalyzing....and my dad she still talks to ex boyfriends and stuff like that? does this seem shady at all?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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he brought it up as a fact that she is a "good woman telling by the amount of men that are still talking to her" also implying that they were good guys too since they are still talking to her................ basically when i was hearing the late night convo it was just a bunch of "yes uh huh uh huh uhhh, uh huh," it sounded shady to me.
 

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i dunno i could be trippin...something about the tone of voice and the occasional sweetness i mean it wasn't occasional it seemed like it was being repressed....i'm probably being paranoid though i dunno
 

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Honestly that sounds like a normal conversation.. You ever talk to someone on the phone and they're telling you something with a lot of details and youre like uh huh yep mmhmm and all of that stuff?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If she is talking to a member of the opposite sex at 4am, she either needs to hand the phone over to her man, or get the fukk out of his house, period.
 

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xdreamz said:
my dad met this girl on the internet 2 years ago...and slowly they have came together as a couple and she is now living in my dads house with her son....


just a little question, if she's talking to someone late at night at 4 am saying stuff like "yea uh huh huh uh huh", i might be overanalyzing....and my dad she still talks to ex boyfriends and stuff like that? does this seem shady at all?
Yeh your dad is old and lonely and has some cash that is attracting younger hos... well lets see, he get sex and she get money sound quite normal to me.... yes she is shady and yes she cheats but that is life.
 
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