"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sh!t Testing

Plinco

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I’m writing this from experience and observations for my own sake, for clarification.

Women feel more confident with you when you pass their sh!t tests. In a woman’s shoes, they have to be very selective and have a deep seated fear of making the wrong choice. That’s why they test you. Women only sh!t test if she is interested in you. If a woman is not interested in you, she’s not sh!t testing you, she’s disrespecting you.

Women like to see you fail her sh!t tests for her ego sake, but she needs you to pass them it to get turned on. She sh!t tests at her ‘level,’ passing them means you are above her, failing means you are below her. Women like sh!t testing, regardless if you pass or fail; you pass she’s turned on, you fail she feels superior to you. The only time she doesn’t like you failing a sh!t test is when she has invested in you already, because then she feels led on.

Since testing is mostly a win win scenario for women, they test often. It is in women’s nature to see how far they can go with their bs. Women do not respect men who give in to their bs, that’s why having a high amount of self-respect and living a life worthy of respect is so important, this is your so called ‘frame.’

Women have been allowed to feel superior because the vast majority of men these days are soft. Stress, pain, and frustration are needed to build a character worthy of self-respect, yet life is so easy now that a man can go through life without having such a character. What’s worse, is that beta males are so sex deprived that women know that the beta males really want to have sex with them; on the forum we know this as one of the causes of simping. Women get to feel validated with little effort.


The solution:

Don’t let women make the rules. If she does, break them.

Recognize that modern women lie constantly.

Don’t let her feel validated unless she actually deserves it, that often means banging them first. That also means not being an orbiter or chasing her in any way. If she's taking hours to reply then next her, she has low interest in you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I read the player handbook by rollo tomassi, in ther he stated 2 kinds of **** test,
1. Congruence **** tes
2. Passive **** test

i guess yours are the passive one
 

Plinco

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I read the player handbook by rollo tomassi, in ther he stated 2 kinds of **** test,
1. Congruence **** tes
2. Passive **** test

i guess yours are the passive one
Never heard of it but that sounds interesting.
 

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Yes, and most of the time, women sh!t test you subconsciously, meaning they don't even know they are sh!t testing you, they just do.
Agree. Additionally, many people, men and women alike have a taste for mean jokes. You also will come to find you "accidentally" **** test girls by saying something casually and suddenly getting an unexpectedly emotional reaction.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I read the player handbook by rollo tomassi, in ther he stated 2 kinds of **** test,
1. Congruence **** tes
2. Passive **** test

i guess yours are the passive one
Just went to buy the audible version, can't wait to listen to it :cool:
 

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I read the player handbook by rollo tomassi, in ther he stated 2 kinds of **** test,
1. Congruence **** tes
2. Passive **** test

i guess yours are the passive one
I'm half way through the audible version.
 
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