So if she sh$t test you after you have known her for a few months. What do you think? Does it go on forever??
it will go on until it does not affect you. if the event can get past your filter and activate your emotion it will continue; forever. when the event happens process it logically. do not pass it through to your emotion unless you choose to do so.
then you will never have a sh$t test. you will only have calm information to consider. you do not need her approval. she can go if she wants. do not participate in the sh$t test. she can just do that by herself you do not need to participate. you do not need to defend or correct her. do not pass it to your emotions unless you choose.