"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sh*t test?

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Redux

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I have been talking with this girl for like 4 days messaging and msn (some you guys think lowly of. Why is that?). Anyways, we met up, hooked up and I made her really horny. Details don't matter that much but she went home happy, thinking I'm THE stuf.

Since then, we haven't met up (I'm way too busy), but, since we hooked up she is not treating me as nicely as before. **** test?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Shocker

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Yeah define hooked up. For some people it means oral or fingering. For others it just means "met". I'm in the former group, if you just hung out with her, just say you did.
 
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Redux

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Im sorry. We just kissed very sexually, no really sexual contact*.
Yet.

(*as we were on the street and it was only midnight)
 
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NO!

You're just not being MAN enough for her!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well, your ignoring her, of course she's going 2 flake, she thinks you dont like her.

But thats a good thing.
 
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Michele l'Arcangelo

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Buck Rogers said:
Well, your ignoring her, of course she's going 2 flake, she thinks you dont like her.

But thats a good thing.
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when did OP ever say either of those?

he never said hw ignored her or that she flaked.

...

ANYWAYS...

but Faca is kinda right...

unless she's not being nice as in yelling at you and slapping you... take it like a man.

but i won't assume...

explain more about how you treasted her and how she treated you before AND after "kissing sexually"
 
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^^

Redux said:
Since then, we haven't met up (I'm way too busy), but, since we hooked up she is not treating me as nicely as before. **** test?
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It's possible. Chicks pull back or play hard to get when they think you're playing games or walking away. Two possibilities:

1. She likes you and is throwing a commitment pattern on you to get her power back and prevent herself from becoming a 'hollaback girl.' (They pull this all the time).

2. She doesn't really like you and took the make-out session for what it was while hiding her low interest in you until the date was over. (I've done this myself).
 
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