She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Which part do you agree with/disagree with, have valid input to build upon it?djbr said:Bump to the Pook reply!
Doggystyle said:Which part do you agree with/disagree with, have valid input to build upon it?
Or are you just hoping pook comes through your monitor with a pink feather an tickles your azz hole for bumping his post?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I read that years ago! Theres some truth to it. Thats all I will say.Matt Rogers said:I was reading an interesting chapter in Napoleon Hill's book Think and Grow Rich. It focuses on the power of harnessing sexual desire and redirecting it to other areas of life. When driven by this desire we develop "keeness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence and creative ability" and a "superpower for action"=attributes that make us extremely attractive.
Hill notes that the greatest achievers are those with highly developed sexual natures. Conversely castrated animals become docile. Dissipitating their sexual energy through over-indulgence in sex, masturbation and lusting over porn, is counterproductive to man's chances of success, and development of charisma and other attractive personality traits.
Transmute this sex energy into enthusiasm, charisma, and persuasion and you will develop a magnetism that will draw success (and women) towards you.
I found this advice highly interesting and I would welcome comments on Hill's conclusions.
Yes, I'd say so.Freddy1 said:I read that years ago! Theres some truth to it. Thats all I will say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.