"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Sexual transmutation
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
SageOFAllenAge
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Which part do you agree with/disagree with, have valid input to build upon it?djbr said:Bump to the Pook reply!
Or are you just hoping pook comes through your monitor with a pink feather an tickles your azz hole for bumping his post?
Doggystyle said:Which part do you agree with/disagree with, have valid input to build upon it?
Or are you just hoping pook comes through your monitor with a pink feather an tickles your azz hole for bumping his post?
Oh would he? Weeee! :cheer: Pick me Pook! MEEEE!!!!
What's so wrong in what he did? It is has lots of great info. Pook is a demi-god here because of what he wrote. Don't be getting all girly-jealous on our asses.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Hell of a post.
I read that years ago! Theres some truth to it. Thats all I will say.Matt Rogers said:I was reading an interesting chapter in Napoleon Hill's book Think and Grow Rich. It focuses on the power of harnessing sexual desire and redirecting it to other areas of life. When driven by this desire we develop "keeness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence and creative ability" and a "superpower for action"=attributes that make us extremely attractive.
Hill notes that the greatest achievers are those with highly developed sexual natures. Conversely castrated animals become docile. Dissipitating their sexual energy through over-indulgence in sex, masturbation and lusting over porn, is counterproductive to man's chances of success, and development of charisma and other attractive personality traits.
Transmute this sex energy into enthusiasm, charisma, and persuasion and you will develop a magnetism that will draw success (and women) towards you.
I found this advice highly interesting and I would welcome comments on Hill's conclusions.
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Yes, I'd say so.Freddy1 said:I read that years ago! Theres some truth to it. Thats all I will say.
I'll say this...a lot of the things I've done in my life, a lot of my episodes of self-discovery and self-improvement, have been a result of seeing the woman I wanted in love with someone else...then seeing the qualities that that person had which drew her to him, and trying to develop those qualities in myself.
Somehow, though, that makes me kinda sick. To think that so many of the things I've done for myself, I've really done to make myself more desirable to women.
Technical1
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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