You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Which part do you agree with/disagree with, have valid input to build upon it?djbr said:Bump to the Pook reply!
Doggystyle said:Which part do you agree with/disagree with, have valid input to build upon it?
Or are you just hoping pook comes through your monitor with a pink feather an tickles your azz hole for bumping his post?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I read that years ago! Theres some truth to it. Thats all I will say.Matt Rogers said:I was reading an interesting chapter in Napoleon Hill's book Think and Grow Rich. It focuses on the power of harnessing sexual desire and redirecting it to other areas of life. When driven by this desire we develop "keeness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence and creative ability" and a "superpower for action"=attributes that make us extremely attractive.
Hill notes that the greatest achievers are those with highly developed sexual natures. Conversely castrated animals become docile. Dissipitating their sexual energy through over-indulgence in sex, masturbation and lusting over porn, is counterproductive to man's chances of success, and development of charisma and other attractive personality traits.
Transmute this sex energy into enthusiasm, charisma, and persuasion and you will develop a magnetism that will draw success (and women) towards you.
I found this advice highly interesting and I would welcome comments on Hill's conclusions.
Yes, I'd say so.Freddy1 said:I read that years ago! Theres some truth to it. Thats all I will say.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.