You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Which part do you agree with/disagree with, have valid input to build upon it?djbr said:Bump to the Pook reply!
Doggystyle said:Which part do you agree with/disagree with, have valid input to build upon it?
Or are you just hoping pook comes through your monitor with a pink feather an tickles your azz hole for bumping his post?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I read that years ago! Theres some truth to it. Thats all I will say.Matt Rogers said:I was reading an interesting chapter in Napoleon Hill's book Think and Grow Rich. It focuses on the power of harnessing sexual desire and redirecting it to other areas of life. When driven by this desire we develop "keeness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence and creative ability" and a "superpower for action"=attributes that make us extremely attractive.
Hill notes that the greatest achievers are those with highly developed sexual natures. Conversely castrated animals become docile. Dissipitating their sexual energy through over-indulgence in sex, masturbation and lusting over porn, is counterproductive to man's chances of success, and development of charisma and other attractive personality traits.
Transmute this sex energy into enthusiasm, charisma, and persuasion and you will develop a magnetism that will draw success (and women) towards you.
I found this advice highly interesting and I would welcome comments on Hill's conclusions.
Yes, I'd say so.Freddy1 said:I read that years ago! Theres some truth to it. Thats all I will say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.