BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
I'm meeting this chick tonight but I don't have any condoms, didn't have the chance to buy any. Is sex without dangerous? or are aids over-hyped?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I came in here to say that.armadon said:I don't get it, You are typing on the computer instead of buying condoms. Takes like 3 minutes to run into the store and buy some.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Do you really get tons of free condoms there?zerocelcius said:Get them for free!
Go to the Family Planning or a clinic. They will give you a smorgasbord of goodies.
ALWAYS USE A CONDOM!!!!!!!BannedGod said:I'm meeting this chick tonight but I don't have any condoms, didn't have the chance to buy any. Is sex without dangerous? or are aids over-hyped?
1) Yes, it can be. 2) Aid's over hyped? No. Neither is any of the other STD's that you could very well get/give.BannedGod said:I'm meeting this chick tonight but I don't have any condoms, didn't have the chance to buy any. Is sex without dangerous? or are aids over-hyped?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
she wouldn't be pregnant if you had pulled out .Moofahsa said:I can't get off with condoms, I dont' go soft or anything but I just can't bust off.
Anyway, I have only had sex with girls I trust and know and that are on the pill. I do not pull out.
Well one night I got drunk and slept with a questionable girl, come march she is supposed to be having my kid. I'll findout then I guess.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.