BannedGod
Senior Don Juan
I'm meeting this chick tonight but I don't have any condoms, didn't have the chance to buy any. Is sex without dangerous? or are aids over-hyped?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I came in here to say that.armadon said:I don't get it, You are typing on the computer instead of buying condoms. Takes like 3 minutes to run into the store and buy some.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Do you really get tons of free condoms there?zerocelcius said:Get them for free!
Go to the Family Planning or a clinic. They will give you a smorgasbord of goodies.
ALWAYS USE A CONDOM!!!!!!!BannedGod said:I'm meeting this chick tonight but I don't have any condoms, didn't have the chance to buy any. Is sex without dangerous? or are aids over-hyped?
1) Yes, it can be. 2) Aid's over hyped? No. Neither is any of the other STD's that you could very well get/give.BannedGod said:I'm meeting this chick tonight but I don't have any condoms, didn't have the chance to buy any. Is sex without dangerous? or are aids over-hyped?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
she wouldn't be pregnant if you had pulled out .Moofahsa said:I can't get off with condoms, I dont' go soft or anything but I just can't bust off.
Anyway, I have only had sex with girls I trust and know and that are on the pill. I do not pull out.
Well one night I got drunk and slept with a questionable girl, come march she is supposed to be having my kid. I'll findout then I guess.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.