"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Sex with Best Friend Now what

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So this girl is like my best friend for many years since highschool and ive truly never thought about a relationship with her even though shes easily a 9.We have a great friendship and we never have any akward moments between each other.So a week ago she invites me to go out and dance,we go out and have a great time and one thing led to another and end up sleeping together.Now i havent talked to her for a few days and im confused,im not sure if i should ask her to be my girlfriend or did she just use me for a booty call? help me so suave
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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call her up, make plans, talk in person...see if she brings up anything first and see how she acts. if nothing gets brought up, then bring it up yourself. and don't be like "hey are you my girlfriend now?" or something similiar cuz i'd have reflashes of Night at the Roxberry.
 

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Jonathan said:
So this girl is like my best friend for many years since highschool and ive truly never thought about a relationship with her even though shes easily a 9.We have a great friendship and we never have any akward moments between each other.So a week ago she invites me to go out and dance,we go out and have a great time and one thing led to another and end up sleeping together.Now i havent talked to her for a few days and im confused,im not sure if i should ask her to be my girlfriend or did she just use me for a booty call? help me so suave
NO.
Just call her to get together and hang out. Nothing more, If she wants something else she will let you know.
 

ScrewIt

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Jonathan said:
Now i havent talked to her for a few days and im confused,im not sure if i should ask her to be my girlfriend or did she just use me for a booty call? help me so suave
lets rephrase that, what do you want out of this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ScrewIt

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Jonathan said:
Im not sure shes my best friend and i dont want it to get weird between us
Too late for that, you havent spoken to her since.

I'd advise calling her to hangout, pretend like nothing happened. If there are awkward moments, then bring it up and talk about it.
 

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it might be too late to go back, dont wait for her to call, you call her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Never have a girl as your best friend. You won't turn out right...i've seen it happen.
 
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