"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So this girl is like my best friend for many years since highschool and ive truly never thought about a relationship with her even though shes easily a 9.We have a great friendship and we never have any akward moments between each other.So a week ago she invites me to go out and dance,we go out and have a great time and one thing led to another and end up sleeping together.Now i havent talked to her for a few days and im confused,im not sure if i should ask her to be my girlfriend or did she just use me for a booty call? help me so suave
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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call her up, make plans, talk in person...see if she brings up anything first and see how she acts. if nothing gets brought up, then bring it up yourself. and don't be like "hey are you my girlfriend now?" or something similiar cuz i'd have reflashes of Night at the Roxberry.
 
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Jonathan said:
So this girl is like my best friend for many years since highschool and ive truly never thought about a relationship with her even though shes easily a 9.We have a great friendship and we never have any akward moments between each other.So a week ago she invites me to go out and dance,we go out and have a great time and one thing led to another and end up sleeping together.Now i havent talked to her for a few days and im confused,im not sure if i should ask her to be my girlfriend or did she just use me for a booty call? help me so suave
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NO.
Just call her to get together and hang out. Nothing more, If she wants something else she will let you know.
 
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Jonathan said:
Now i havent talked to her for a few days and im confused,im not sure if i should ask her to be my girlfriend or did she just use me for a booty call? help me so suave
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lets rephrase that, what do you want out of this?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jonathan said:
Im not sure shes my best friend and i dont want it to get weird between us
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Too late for that, you havent spoken to her since.

I'd advise calling her to hangout, pretend like nothing happened. If there are awkward moments, then bring it up and talk about it.
 
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it might be too late to go back, dont wait for her to call, you call her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Never have a girl as your best friend. You won't turn out right...i've seen it happen.
 
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