"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Setting up Dates

asianbboy

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Hi,
Ok so a problem i have. one girl seems to be busy. and it's not just the "im busy can't go", I'm getting some maybe plausible real reasons. So, when setting up a date, do you guys say "when are you free" or give a set time? i feel like giving a set time makes it easy for them to say no.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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No, don't ask when they're free.
asianbboy said:
i feel like giving a set time makes it easy for them to say no.
This is the wrong way to think. If she's interested, she WILL find a way to see you. Her declining AND not making a counter-offer, especially doing this multiple times, is a clear sign of disinterest.
 

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That seems like good advice, but... what if the girl's just shy? She seems quite enthusiastic when I talk to her, I get a feeling she likes me. I'm not going to put too much weight on it but I just think that it's not really a rejection.
 

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again dude NO MATTER HOW SHY SHE IS A GIRL WILL ALWAYS MAKE TIME FOR YOU. If she didnt counter offer thats a low IOI
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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asianbboy said:
That seems like good advice, but... what if the girl's just shy? She seems quite enthusiastic when I talk to her, I get a feeling she likes me. I'm not going to put too much weight on it but I just think that it's not really a rejection.
You are being a major pvssy. So what if you get rejected? Deal with it and move on
 

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Give her an option. I just texting a girl "Hey, are you free Thursday or Friday this week?" And she texted back "hmm, I've got a lot going on Thursday but I'm definitely free Friday :)"

Worked out for me...
 
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