"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Setting up Dates

asianbboy

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Hi,
Ok so a problem i have. one girl seems to be busy. and it's not just the "im busy can't go", I'm getting some maybe plausible real reasons. So, when setting up a date, do you guys say "when are you free" or give a set time? i feel like giving a set time makes it easy for them to say no.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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No, don't ask when they're free.
asianbboy said:
i feel like giving a set time makes it easy for them to say no.
This is the wrong way to think. If she's interested, she WILL find a way to see you. Her declining AND not making a counter-offer, especially doing this multiple times, is a clear sign of disinterest.
 

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That seems like good advice, but... what if the girl's just shy? She seems quite enthusiastic when I talk to her, I get a feeling she likes me. I'm not going to put too much weight on it but I just think that it's not really a rejection.
 

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again dude NO MATTER HOW SHY SHE IS A GIRL WILL ALWAYS MAKE TIME FOR YOU. If she didnt counter offer thats a low IOI
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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asianbboy said:
That seems like good advice, but... what if the girl's just shy? She seems quite enthusiastic when I talk to her, I get a feeling she likes me. I'm not going to put too much weight on it but I just think that it's not really a rejection.
You are being a major pvssy. So what if you get rejected? Deal with it and move on
 

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Give her an option. I just texting a girl "Hey, are you free Thursday or Friday this week?" And she texted back "hmm, I've got a lot going on Thursday but I'm definitely free Friday :)"

Worked out for me...
 
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