"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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CORVETTE06

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I have a serious problem when it comes to hooking up with girls.

i KNOW how to make girls get hot, i know how to make them ***. but after i'm done doing stuff to them, they want to do stuff to me.

I have a serious problem where i get nervous and I can't get an erection no matter what. Everytime I hook up with a girl, this happens. THe only girl I was able to get it up for was my girlfriend because I was comfortable around her.

The next time I hook up with this girl, its going to look weird if I don't let her touch me again. I don't want her to touch me when im not hard cuz thats embarassing.

What can I do to help myself with my problem? I have a thing where I think girls are gonna think my **** is small.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Michael Chief

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its all psychological, man. no need for doctors or viagra. you say you were able to make the soldier salute for your gf because you were comfortable. Comfort is obviously key here. you are insecure about women touching you when you aren't hard, but you should let them anyway. You want to get comfortable with them touching you!
Take porn as an example. The guy isnt always hard when he whips it out for the starlette to deliver lip service, yet he is confident as ever about exposing himself because he knows that he will eventually get it up.

confidence = comfort

you are no less than that, and you have the right to be confident with your body. relax with every breath and know that she is there to please you, not judge you.

one trick you can do is this:
whenever you feel comfortable and confident, do something unique with your body, such as making a specific shape with your lips or tongue (nothing too awkward and obvious). If you condition yourself enough, you should eventually be able to recall these feelings of comfort and confidence whenever you perform this action on command.
 

frisco

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when ever i get nervous whith a women an we are being intimate i just ask a deep question like when her first kiss was what she felt when she lost her virginity ext. it fits the mood and takes attention off yourself. Then go back to making out or whatever
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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