Vanderdonck
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Separate IME.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Separate or joint finances?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
jhonny9546
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Thanks everyone for sharing their experiences
Personally, I would keep separate.
"housing debt" split at 50/50% (on a joint account)
The rest is your property.
Personally, I would keep separate.
"housing debt" split at 50/50% (on a joint account)
The rest is your property.
What do you mean? I have a friend that suddenly accepted to join her account with her husband, as soon as they've married. (Like she chained him now)
plumber
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two things. mental and legal. they are different.
it is ok if the accounts are joined for mental. it matters how the decisions go. does she follow his lead, and does he lead. or does she fight and argue about the money.
lots of guys can not manage money, either because they want to buy approval or they can not focus. It follows with all the other topics we discuss in this forum.
i know many men that must ask the spouse for 'permission' to spend. and i know many men that do not properly take care of the woman and spend money they don't have.
Best case; man takes care of it and her, woman follows. If she is following she will want to give/share what she has because she wants to help.
Money is like a measuring thing. How the money flow is how the relationship goes.
most of the nasty nasty breakups include money as a topic.
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LTRs anyone who has a joint account is a fool.
In marriage you at least have some legal rights in most places to justify it, but I would tend to advise you should always at least have some money in a separate account just in case.
In marriage you at least have some legal rights in most places to justify it, but I would tend to advise you should always at least have some money in a separate account just in case.
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I would be willing to guess the divorce rate of people who think everything is separate while being married is much higher than normal because this same thought process bleeds over into every other aspect of the marriage where they are unwilling to compromise as well.
Essentially these people should not get married, it will not end well for them.
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