Separate or joint finances?

[Vanderdonck]

Separate IME.

 

[jhonny9546]

Thanks everyone for sharing their experiences

Personally, I would keep separate.
"housing debt" split at 50/50% (on a joint account)
The rest is your property.

when she is push for equal or control her interest level is down

What do you mean? I have a friend that suddenly accepted to join her account with her husband, as soon as they've married. (Like she chained him now)

 

[plumber]

Thanks everyone for sharing their experiences

Personally, I would keep separate.
"housing debt" split at 50/50% (on a joint account)
The rest is your property.


What do you mean? I have a friend that suddenly accepted to join her account with her husband, as soon as they've married. (Like she chained him now)

two things. mental and legal. they are different.

it is ok if the accounts are joined for mental. it matters how the decisions go. does she follow his lead, and does he lead. or does she fight and argue about the money.

lots of guys can not manage money, either because they want to buy approval or they can not focus. It follows with all the other topics we discuss in this forum.

i know many men that must ask the spouse for 'permission' to spend. and i know many men that do not properly take care of the woman and spend money they don't have.

Best case; man takes care of it and her, woman follows. If she is following she will want to give/share what she has because she wants to help.

Money is like a measuring thing. How the money flow is how the relationship goes.

most of the nasty nasty breakups include money as a topic.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

LTRs anyone who has a joint account is a fool.

In marriage you at least have some legal rights in most places to justify it, but I would tend to advise you should always at least have some money in a separate account just in case.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Thanks everyone for sharing their experiences

Personally, I would keep separate.
"housing debt" split at 50/50% (on a joint account)
The rest is your property.


What do you mean? I have a friend that suddenly accepted to join her account with her husband, as soon as they've married. (Like she chained him now)

I would be willing to guess the divorce rate of people who think everything is separate while being married is much higher than normal because this same thought process bleeds over into every other aspect of the marriage where they are unwilling to compromise as well.

Essentially these people should not get married, it will not end well for them.