Vanderdonck
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Separate IME.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Separate or joint finances?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
jhonny9546
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Thanks everyone for sharing their experiences
Personally, I would keep separate.
"housing debt" split at 50/50% (on a joint account)
The rest is your property.
Personally, I would keep separate.
"housing debt" split at 50/50% (on a joint account)
The rest is your property.
What do you mean? I have a friend that suddenly accepted to join her account with her husband, as soon as they've married. (Like she chained him now)
plumber
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two things. mental and legal. they are different.
it is ok if the accounts are joined for mental. it matters how the decisions go. does she follow his lead, and does he lead. or does she fight and argue about the money.
lots of guys can not manage money, either because they want to buy approval or they can not focus. It follows with all the other topics we discuss in this forum.
i know many men that must ask the spouse for 'permission' to spend. and i know many men that do not properly take care of the woman and spend money they don't have.
Best case; man takes care of it and her, woman follows. If she is following she will want to give/share what she has because she wants to help.
Money is like a measuring thing. How the money flow is how the relationship goes.
most of the nasty nasty breakups include money as a topic.
BackInTheGame78
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LTRs anyone who has a joint account is a fool.
In marriage you at least have some legal rights in most places to justify it, but I would tend to advise you should always at least have some money in a separate account just in case.
In marriage you at least have some legal rights in most places to justify it, but I would tend to advise you should always at least have some money in a separate account just in case.
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I would be willing to guess the divorce rate of people who think everything is separate while being married is much higher than normal because this same thought process bleeds over into every other aspect of the marriage where they are unwilling to compromise as well.
Essentially these people should not get married, it will not end well for them.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.