"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sending flowers...?

getbusylivin

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Been dating this girl for a good two months, and one of her friends mentioned she liked pink roses, so I was thinking about sending a half dozen to her work, cause I know they love that kinda stuff...

Ive sent flowers to girlfriends before and its worked out great, but I forget how long I was in the relationship before I did...thoughts?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar

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Girls love flowers.
But, just send her one rose and maybe a short message with it.

lol and this is your first post, some trouble you're having :p
flowers are cool, dunno why you need help sending them, because I do charge a high delivery fee.
the DJ way though is to make her send flowers to you haha
 

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DJDamage said:
Flowers should be used only as a reward. Has she done something special for you to earn those flowers??
She cooked me dinner the other night, and then gave me dessert...
 

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getbusylivin said:
She cooked me dinner the other night, and then gave me dessert...
alright send one flower with a message saying "thanks for dinner" or something... heh
I wouldn't give a girl one petal for making me dinner... unless she's like an awesome cook.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
the DJ way though is to make her send flowers to you haha
If your girl is sending you flowers and you call it the DJ way, you should rethink that. What the hell is a man going to do with flowers??!!

The DJ way is if your girl shows up naked at your door and brings food and drinks for the night. That is what I call satisfaction.
 

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getbusylivin said:
She cooked me dinner the other night, and then gave me dessert...
Alright then, just make sure that she knows it was for last night and also don't overdo with gifts, use them sparingly. You don't want to create a monter thinking that she deserves a gift everytime she does something nice or for just being there. As well never give women gifts after they done something bad.

You are her number 1 gift. Remember that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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