"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Seeing two girls at once

ShortSpark

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Damn,

I haven’t posted here in a long time, but I’m back to sosuave to ask for advice. Looking at my last post, what a difference a couple of years make...

Anyway, I’ve just been spinning plates for the last couple of years and have been with a lot of women, but in the last 2 months I met a girl, she’s almost supermodel like, I thought I had finally got sick of being with woman after woman, and thought she was finally the one to change me, so beautiful, funny, intelligent, TALL like really damn tall. Sounds good right?

Well it was until I had a couple of weeks off work that I needed to use for holiday, I met this girl in a coffee shop who I was just insanely attracted to, next minute I’m asking her out for a drink, and we start dating as well. She’s also beautiful, funny, intelligent. But now tall girl has asked me for 100% exclusivity, and I’ve already started lying to her face. I’m seeing one, one night, and the other the next. I’m going to get found out soon, but I seriously like them both the same. I’m even supposed to be going on a trip abroad with tall girl. I don’t want to hurt them, because they’re both probably the nicest girls I’ve met, but I know I actually want to see one of them and continue it. I’ve literally not met anyone like them in the past couple of years and then they both come along at the same time!!

First world problems, what do I do?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Young OG

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Damn,

I haven’t posted here in a long time, but I’m back to sosuave to ask for advice. Looking at my last post, what a difference a couple of years make...

Anyway, I’ve just been spinning plates for the last couple of years and have been with a lot of women, but in the last 2 months I met a girl, she’s almost supermodel like, I thought I had finally got sick of being with woman after woman, and thought she was finally the one to change me, so beautiful, funny, intelligent, TALL like really damn tall. Sounds good right?

Well it was until I had a couple of weeks off work that I needed to use for holiday, I met this girl in a coffee shop who I was just insanely attracted to, next minute I’m asking her out for a drink, and we start dating as well. She’s also beautiful, funny, intelligent. But now tall girl has asked me for 100% exclusivity, and I’ve already started lying to her face. I’m seeing one, one night, and the other the next. I’m going to get found out soon, but I seriously like them both the same. I’m even supposed to be going on a trip abroad with tall girl. I don’t want to hurt them, because they’re both probably the nicest girls I’ve met, but I know I actually want to see one of them and continue it. I’ve literally not met anyone like them in the past couple of years and then they both come along at the same time!!

First world problems, what do I do?
If your looking for an LTR, then you need to pick one of them. Get out some paper and do a side by side comparison of the two. Pick which ever one has the best qualities.

Dating both won't be easy, so you will need to make up your mind. I've had a gf and a side girl before. I always had to keep my ringer off, delete texts, delete call logs, and sometimes block. It can be a lot of work. Like I said, just pick the one who has the best qualities.
 

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Continue spinning.

And if u r caught, just comment : "may the best woman win".

Don't worry, I've been using that line for decades, never fails.
 

ShortSpark

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Thanks for the replies!

I considered to carry on seeing them both, ended up booking flights with tall girl, next day saw coffee girl, told her everything, was brutally honest, and she turned round and said she still wanted to see me. So I ended it with tall girl.. damn it was so hard, and she got so upset. Now I don’t even know if I made the correct decision. Maybe neither are right
 

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You had to choose man, nice you came clean btw, hope you guys live a happy life ;)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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