"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Seeing two girls at once

ShortSpark

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Damn,

I haven’t posted here in a long time, but I’m back to sosuave to ask for advice. Looking at my last post, what a difference a couple of years make...

Anyway, I’ve just been spinning plates for the last couple of years and have been with a lot of women, but in the last 2 months I met a girl, she’s almost supermodel like, I thought I had finally got sick of being with woman after woman, and thought she was finally the one to change me, so beautiful, funny, intelligent, TALL like really damn tall. Sounds good right?

Well it was until I had a couple of weeks off work that I needed to use for holiday, I met this girl in a coffee shop who I was just insanely attracted to, next minute I’m asking her out for a drink, and we start dating as well. She’s also beautiful, funny, intelligent. But now tall girl has asked me for 100% exclusivity, and I’ve already started lying to her face. I’m seeing one, one night, and the other the next. I’m going to get found out soon, but I seriously like them both the same. I’m even supposed to be going on a trip abroad with tall girl. I don’t want to hurt them, because they’re both probably the nicest girls I’ve met, but I know I actually want to see one of them and continue it. I’ve literally not met anyone like them in the past couple of years and then they both come along at the same time!!

First world problems, what do I do?
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Young OG

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Damn,

I haven’t posted here in a long time, but I’m back to sosuave to ask for advice. Looking at my last post, what a difference a couple of years make...

Anyway, I’ve just been spinning plates for the last couple of years and have been with a lot of women, but in the last 2 months I met a girl, she’s almost supermodel like, I thought I had finally got sick of being with woman after woman, and thought she was finally the one to change me, so beautiful, funny, intelligent, TALL like really damn tall. Sounds good right?

Well it was until I had a couple of weeks off work that I needed to use for holiday, I met this girl in a coffee shop who I was just insanely attracted to, next minute I’m asking her out for a drink, and we start dating as well. She’s also beautiful, funny, intelligent. But now tall girl has asked me for 100% exclusivity, and I’ve already started lying to her face. I’m seeing one, one night, and the other the next. I’m going to get found out soon, but I seriously like them both the same. I’m even supposed to be going on a trip abroad with tall girl. I don’t want to hurt them, because they’re both probably the nicest girls I’ve met, but I know I actually want to see one of them and continue it. I’ve literally not met anyone like them in the past couple of years and then they both come along at the same time!!

First world problems, what do I do?
If your looking for an LTR, then you need to pick one of them. Get out some paper and do a side by side comparison of the two. Pick which ever one has the best qualities.

Dating both won't be easy, so you will need to make up your mind. I've had a gf and a side girl before. I always had to keep my ringer off, delete texts, delete call logs, and sometimes block. It can be a lot of work. Like I said, just pick the one who has the best qualities.
 

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Continue spinning.

And if u r caught, just comment : "may the best woman win".

Don't worry, I've been using that line for decades, never fails.
 

ShortSpark

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Thanks for the replies!

I considered to carry on seeing them both, ended up booking flights with tall girl, next day saw coffee girl, told her everything, was brutally honest, and she turned round and said she still wanted to see me. So I ended it with tall girl.. damn it was so hard, and she got so upset. Now I don’t even know if I made the correct decision. Maybe neither are right
 

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You had to choose man, nice you came clean btw, hope you guys live a happy life ;)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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