"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Seeing two girls at once

ShortSpark

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Damn,

I haven’t posted here in a long time, but I’m back to sosuave to ask for advice. Looking at my last post, what a difference a couple of years make...

Anyway, I’ve just been spinning plates for the last couple of years and have been with a lot of women, but in the last 2 months I met a girl, she’s almost supermodel like, I thought I had finally got sick of being with woman after woman, and thought she was finally the one to change me, so beautiful, funny, intelligent, TALL like really damn tall. Sounds good right?

Well it was until I had a couple of weeks off work that I needed to use for holiday, I met this girl in a coffee shop who I was just insanely attracted to, next minute I’m asking her out for a drink, and we start dating as well. She’s also beautiful, funny, intelligent. But now tall girl has asked me for 100% exclusivity, and I’ve already started lying to her face. I’m seeing one, one night, and the other the next. I’m going to get found out soon, but I seriously like them both the same. I’m even supposed to be going on a trip abroad with tall girl. I don’t want to hurt them, because they’re both probably the nicest girls I’ve met, but I know I actually want to see one of them and continue it. I’ve literally not met anyone like them in the past couple of years and then they both come along at the same time!!

First world problems, what do I do?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Young OG

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Damn,

I haven’t posted here in a long time, but I’m back to sosuave to ask for advice. Looking at my last post, what a difference a couple of years make...

Anyway, I’ve just been spinning plates for the last couple of years and have been with a lot of women, but in the last 2 months I met a girl, she’s almost supermodel like, I thought I had finally got sick of being with woman after woman, and thought she was finally the one to change me, so beautiful, funny, intelligent, TALL like really damn tall. Sounds good right?

Well it was until I had a couple of weeks off work that I needed to use for holiday, I met this girl in a coffee shop who I was just insanely attracted to, next minute I’m asking her out for a drink, and we start dating as well. She’s also beautiful, funny, intelligent. But now tall girl has asked me for 100% exclusivity, and I’ve already started lying to her face. I’m seeing one, one night, and the other the next. I’m going to get found out soon, but I seriously like them both the same. I’m even supposed to be going on a trip abroad with tall girl. I don’t want to hurt them, because they’re both probably the nicest girls I’ve met, but I know I actually want to see one of them and continue it. I’ve literally not met anyone like them in the past couple of years and then they both come along at the same time!!

First world problems, what do I do?
If your looking for an LTR, then you need to pick one of them. Get out some paper and do a side by side comparison of the two. Pick which ever one has the best qualities.

Dating both won't be easy, so you will need to make up your mind. I've had a gf and a side girl before. I always had to keep my ringer off, delete texts, delete call logs, and sometimes block. It can be a lot of work. Like I said, just pick the one who has the best qualities.
 

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Continue spinning.

And if u r caught, just comment : "may the best woman win".

Don't worry, I've been using that line for decades, never fails.
 

ShortSpark

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Thanks for the replies!

I considered to carry on seeing them both, ended up booking flights with tall girl, next day saw coffee girl, told her everything, was brutally honest, and she turned round and said she still wanted to see me. So I ended it with tall girl.. damn it was so hard, and she got so upset. Now I don’t even know if I made the correct decision. Maybe neither are right
 

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You had to choose man, nice you came clean btw, hope you guys live a happy life ;)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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