Now that I realize everything I was doing wrong in the past with women I still find myself having thoughts feelings or actions that are consistent with the guy that wants to be nice or maybe even a jerk etc. etc. How do I flush that stuff out? See to be honest I gotta tell ya some of that stuff has worked for me in the past. Yet I'm realize the philosophies here have a more consistent pay off.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
See the matrix but still can't unplug
- Thread starter sosilky
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Yeah, you need reprogramming.sosilky said:
I'm seventeen, my brain is still developing, so by the time I'm your age my attitude will be hard to change.
Have you read/watched David DeAngelo's material? It's geared towards older guys, and it's got some great material that'll help you realize that what you're doing is utterly stupid. You attitude will literally change overnight. Read his eBook
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Joe The Homophobe
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sosilky, realize that you only got 1 life to live and if you keep being a wuss instead of acting like a man around woman you will lose time which you can never get back. The clock is ticking, enjoy your life.
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This doesn't require becoming a behavioral scientist. If you act like an escapee from the penal system for the criminally insane, most women will avoid you (people in general for that matter). If you seem like you've been living in mom's basement for the past 10 years, most people will think you a bit strange. If you act like you're gay, well, most people will assume you might be gay.
So I can tell you've already realized it's a continium.
WussBag <-----------------------------------------> Psycho
I don't imagine you want to be at either extreme. It's not easy to consistently hit the sweet spot, but when you do you'l know it because you'll feel talkative, alive, and want to interact with people. When you've hit that spot, at least in my experience, interactions take care of themselves... no weirdo, PUA, pretending to be someone else stuff required. A big part of this is realizing your own & others' intrinsic values and to stop obsessing with external indicators of "success" or "failure" as defined by corporate culture. By those external standards one is never good enough and it leads to a striving for superiority where one never feels quite good enough but always believes that just one more lay, degree, promotion, etc will provide that sense of inner security.
So I can tell you've already realized it's a continium.
WussBag <-----------------------------------------> Psycho
I don't imagine you want to be at either extreme. It's not easy to consistently hit the sweet spot, but when you do you'l know it because you'll feel talkative, alive, and want to interact with people. When you've hit that spot, at least in my experience, interactions take care of themselves... no weirdo, PUA, pretending to be someone else stuff required. A big part of this is realizing your own & others' intrinsic values and to stop obsessing with external indicators of "success" or "failure" as defined by corporate culture. By those external standards one is never good enough and it leads to a striving for superiority where one never feels quite good enough but always believes that just one more lay, degree, promotion, etc will provide that sense of inner security.