Now that I realize everything I was doing wrong in the past with women I still find myself having thoughts feelings or actions that are consistent with the guy that wants to be nice or maybe even a jerk etc. etc. How do I flush that stuff out? See to be honest I gotta tell ya some of that stuff has worked for me in the past. Yet I'm realize the philosophies here have a more consistent pay off.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
See the matrix but still can't unplug
- Thread starter sosilky
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Yeah, you need reprogramming.sosilky said:
I'm seventeen, my brain is still developing, so by the time I'm your age my attitude will be hard to change.
Have you read/watched David DeAngelo's material? It's geared towards older guys, and it's got some great material that'll help you realize that what you're doing is utterly stupid. You attitude will literally change overnight. Read his eBook
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Joe The Homophobe
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sosilky, realize that you only got 1 life to live and if you keep being a wuss instead of acting like a man around woman you will lose time which you can never get back. The clock is ticking, enjoy your life.
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This doesn't require becoming a behavioral scientist. If you act like an escapee from the penal system for the criminally insane, most women will avoid you (people in general for that matter). If you seem like you've been living in mom's basement for the past 10 years, most people will think you a bit strange. If you act like you're gay, well, most people will assume you might be gay.
So I can tell you've already realized it's a continium.
WussBag <-----------------------------------------> Psycho
I don't imagine you want to be at either extreme. It's not easy to consistently hit the sweet spot, but when you do you'l know it because you'll feel talkative, alive, and want to interact with people. When you've hit that spot, at least in my experience, interactions take care of themselves... no weirdo, PUA, pretending to be someone else stuff required. A big part of this is realizing your own & others' intrinsic values and to stop obsessing with external indicators of "success" or "failure" as defined by corporate culture. By those external standards one is never good enough and it leads to a striving for superiority where one never feels quite good enough but always believes that just one more lay, degree, promotion, etc will provide that sense of inner security.
So I can tell you've already realized it's a continium.
WussBag <-----------------------------------------> Psycho
I don't imagine you want to be at either extreme. It's not easy to consistently hit the sweet spot, but when you do you'l know it because you'll feel talkative, alive, and want to interact with people. When you've hit that spot, at least in my experience, interactions take care of themselves... no weirdo, PUA, pretending to be someone else stuff required. A big part of this is realizing your own & others' intrinsic values and to stop obsessing with external indicators of "success" or "failure" as defined by corporate culture. By those external standards one is never good enough and it leads to a striving for superiority where one never feels quite good enough but always believes that just one more lay, degree, promotion, etc will provide that sense of inner security.