"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Second girl enters the scene
- Thread starter Die Hard
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Desdinova said:
this is exactly what I wanted to post in his other thread about riding the bus.
OH. MY. GOD. you are SOOOO overthinking and overanalyzing everything.
Getting pissed off at women for being witches with a b (<-reffering to the one that pissed you off in the gym, not sure whether it was this thread or the other...) is, among almost every other thing you described about yourself, the EXACT DEFINITION of being AFC.
I don't mean to be cruel, but dude, you seriously need to man up. You have to not give a fu(k, this is not something you can fake. Start reading through the bible (no not that one, the one that's linked at the bottom left of this page...).
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Point taken on the overanalyzing and need to man up, though, for 100%! And no, you're no being cruel, I need to hear the truth. I've been slowly making progress at conquering the AFC inside of me but lately I totally dropped back to my old ways. Your and other's posts in the last few days have been very helpful in that regard, I needed a kick in the butt to snap out of it and pick up where I left off. Thank you!