"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Second girl enters the scene
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Desdinova said:
this is exactly what I wanted to post in his other thread about riding the bus.
OH. MY. GOD. you are SOOOO overthinking and overanalyzing everything.
Getting pissed off at women for being witches with a b (<-reffering to the one that pissed you off in the gym, not sure whether it was this thread or the other...) is, among almost every other thing you described about yourself, the EXACT DEFINITION of being AFC.
I don't mean to be cruel, but dude, you seriously need to man up. You have to not give a fu(k, this is not something you can fake. Start reading through the bible (no not that one, the one that's linked at the bottom left of this page...).
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Point taken on the overanalyzing and need to man up, though, for 100%! And no, you're no being cruel, I need to hear the truth. I've been slowly making progress at conquering the AFC inside of me but lately I totally dropped back to my old ways. Your and other's posts in the last few days have been very helpful in that regard, I needed a kick in the butt to snap out of it and pick up where I left off. Thank you!