"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Sean Connery tells us when it's approprate to smack a woman
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Wow and he's been married for 30+ years. I wonder what goes on in that household.Luthor Rex said:
bigjohnson
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Probably they are very happy together.
spider_007
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old school
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Some women might really need that if what he's describing is true. Personally I wouldn't do that but I wouldn't put up with the behavior either.
It seems like he doesn't just haul off when he feels like it. He says in the interview that she provokes him.
Do some women desire and need this? Whatever the reason the women take actions to bring on this punishment. Could it be that they miss their fathers dicipline, need attention, want a man to take control of them....ect?
31 years is a long time especially for a hollywood superstar. He has done over 60 movies.
Do some women desire and need this? Whatever the reason the women take actions to bring on this punishment. Could it be that they miss their fathers dicipline, need attention, want a man to take control of them....ect?
31 years is a long time especially for a hollywood superstar. He has done over 60 movies.
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Centaurion
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I agree with Sean Connery. Women don't know when to stop. They keep pushing and pushing, especially after you've made it clear that enough is enough. I haven't smacked a chick during an argument, but I've been inches from doing it several times.
Joe The Homophobe
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It is ok to smack a b|tch, it is not ok to beat a b|tch, there is a big difference.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Luthor Rex
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A long time ago I would have said "never smack a woman"...
Now that I understand how most women are actually children trapped inside of an adult's body, I'm not so sure.
Maybe a spanking on the butt like her daddy did.
edit: Actually, if I were ever in a relationship with a woman and I felt the need to smack her, I think I'd just end the relationship.
Now that I understand how most women are actually children trapped inside of an adult's body, I'm not so sure.
Maybe a spanking on the butt like her daddy did.
edit: Actually, if I were ever in a relationship with a woman and I felt the need to smack her, I think I'd just end the relationship.
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penkitten
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"smack my b!tch up".....................
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My Father always told me to Never smack a woman, but I kind of hear Sean Connery on this one. Makes sense. Married for 31 years? Obviously he's doing something right. I think that women like to be smacked or corrected by their men too.
No.
It's never okay to use violence with your SO. Never, and it doesn't matter who is doing it. Women should never smack their husbands, and husbands should never smack their wives. I don't care what an old farty actor thinks about it, what influence has he on my life? I wouldn't consider wearing leather tights if he had recommended them, so why should I take any hint from him on anything else?
while I might agree with you, you are not leaving room for debate. you don't present anything which would make your statement true, just giving an opinion which is affected by media. Seems like you think woman and men are equal in a sense that what applys to a woman should also apply to a man. Anyway, who's to say that we are not meant to keep our spouses in place when they cross the line. Equality? Morale spoon fed by the media?Papermoon said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You can keep your spouses in place without resorting to violence. If you can't you shouldn't be in a relationship.
What will you give your wife if you smack her when she does wrong? Fear. She won't do it again, maybe. But imho for the wrong reasons. If you talk to her, however, and make her understand that there is a line that needs to be respected, she can make a choice not to behave in a bad way again. It's a choice between gaining respect and implementing fear, imho.
You are right, this is just my opinion, I merely wanted to outbalance the "yeah, smacking is fun" fraction in this thread. I am not aware of any influence the media had on me in that respect. But even if there were influence, it wouldn't necesarily be bad. If I learned from the media that 1+1= 2, it wouldn't make the equation wrong either.
What will you give your wife if you smack her when she does wrong? Fear. She won't do it again, maybe. But imho for the wrong reasons. If you talk to her, however, and make her understand that there is a line that needs to be respected, she can make a choice not to behave in a bad way again. It's a choice between gaining respect and implementing fear, imho.
You are right, this is just my opinion, I merely wanted to outbalance the "yeah, smacking is fun" fraction in this thread. I am not aware of any influence the media had on me in that respect. But even if there were influence, it wouldn't necesarily be bad. If I learned from the media that 1+1= 2, it wouldn't make the equation wrong either.
nicely said, and i would like to second that. guys, even i dont feel smacking is the way to it. even smacking ur children or whatever u can boss upon. for the very first thing, why would ever get in relationship with a smackhead that doesnt know the border line and then again, we are humans we are supposed to err, so why not show them the borderline through just talking out.Papermoon said:
its not that im putting her on a pedestal as a woman but i am actually giving her the respect as a woman. man, how i get surprise at how we actually forget the difference between wussy, alphas and jerks.
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Your assuming your talking to a rational woman. If she were rational in the first place she wouldn't be belligerently crossing line. For some women there is no making them understand through talk.Papermoon said:
Having said that, personally I have not and would not ever hit a woman. If I went out with a woman and she started doing this I would just leave her. Likely she will end up getting decked by the next guy or the next guy after that etc..
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.