You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Wow and he's been married for 30+ years. I wonder what goes on in that household.Luthor Rex said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
No.I think that women like to be smacked or corrected by their men too.
while I might agree with you, you are not leaving room for debate. you don't present anything which would make your statement true, just giving an opinion which is affected by media. Seems like you think woman and men are equal in a sense that what applys to a woman should also apply to a man. Anyway, who's to say that we are not meant to keep our spouses in place when they cross the line. Equality? Morale spoon fed by the media?Papermoon said:No.
It's never okay to use violence with your SO. Never, and it doesn't matter who is doing it. Women should never smack their husbands, and husbands should never smack their wives. I don't care what an old farty actor thinks about it, what influence has he on my life? I wouldn't consider wearing leather tights if he had recommended them, so why should I take any hint from him on anything else?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
nicely said, and i would like to second that. guys, even i dont feel smacking is the way to it. even smacking ur children or whatever u can boss upon. for the very first thing, why would ever get in relationship with a smackhead that doesnt know the border line and then again, we are humans we are supposed to err, so why not show them the borderline through just talking out.Papermoon said:You can keep your spouses in place without resorting to violence. If you can't you shouldn't be in a relationship.
What will you give your wife if you smack her when she does wrong? Fear. She won't do it again, maybe. But imho for the wrong reasons. If you talk to her, however, and make her understand that there is a line that needs to be respected, she can make a choice not to behave in a bad way again. It's a choice between gaining respect and implementing fear, imho.
You are right, this is just my opinion, I merely wanted to outbalance the "yeah, smacking is fun" fraction in this thread. I am not aware of any influence the media had on me in that respect. But even if there were influence, it wouldn't necesarily be bad. If I learned from the media that 1+1= 2, it wouldn't make the equation wrong either.
Your assuming your talking to a rational woman. If she were rational in the first place she wouldn't be belligerently crossing line. For some women there is no making them understand through talk.Papermoon said:If you talk to her, however, and make her understand that there is a line that needs to be respected, she can make a choice not to behave in a bad way again.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.