"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TheNewGuy

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Alright, I found this HB9 on MySpace that lives in my town. I ask her for her screenname, she gives it to me. I wait 4 days and message her. I keep it short, throwing in some C&F. Convo below

me: hey
her: heyyy
me: whats up
her: nothing much, you?
me: nm, bored
me: you going to <party>?
her: nope
her: take me lol
her: im <her name>
me: heh, good introduction
her: hahahahah
<Me introducing myself with some C&F>
me: so <party> is this sunday
me: we're gonna go
her: what time?
<I explain where/when all that stuff>
her: whats your last name?
me: stalker!
me: lol ;)
me: <my last name>
her: haha send me ur myspace again
me: yet again, stalkerrr
her: hahahhaa shh
me: i knew it
me: i'm so smart
me: so it definetly isn't <myspace link>
her: haha thanks bud
me: alright, i gotta go
her: alright peaceee ttyl
me: whats your number? i'll call you about <party> later

<Couple minutes pass>

me: you there?
me: alright, w/e
me: i'm out

<I leave, when I come back I see...>

her: hhhh
her: agggfuhfighfdsg
her: <her number>
This is probably one of the hottest chicks I've seen, never mind actually had a chance with, and she asked me to take her to the party.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I didn't think the wait rule applied for instant messenging but I could see how it works in that situation also.

A few suggestions:

-You should have tried to get her phone number instead of screen name.

-When she said, "nothing much, you" rather than saying, "nm, bored" you might have tried a different response. I suggest you should have said something like, "Oh I just got back from some errands" or "I am about to head out". This will spark interest, she will most likely ask you where did you get back from, or where you are going to go out. At this point you can keep the game going by not letting her in on what you did / are going to do (even if it's not true).

If she kept on persisting on the above topic, you could also throw in some more of the C&F stalker stuff you were using.

And I just forgot what I was going to say after this so...I will edit it if I remember.
 

Smooth Player 056

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The conversation sounds AFC to me, you had a little c&f but it was more like s&r (stupid and rediculous). Well tell us how the party goes.




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TheNewGuy

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Thanks for the advice. I'll remember that "just heading out" line. IMHO, if it's C&F or S&R or S&M or D&Z, I still got the number, and a hottt date to a party.

To each his own, I guess.
 

08aisaac

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Nah, it doesn't sound AFC. AFC is a state of mind, not a classification of actions.

If you re in a DJ state of mind, you can't make an AFC move, because it takes an AFC to pull an AFC move. But the question is are you a DJ?

But yeah sounds like you could hook up with her at the party.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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