"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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TheNewGuy

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Alright, I found this HB9 on MySpace that lives in my town. I ask her for her screenname, she gives it to me. I wait 4 days and message her. I keep it short, throwing in some C&F. Convo below

me: hey
her: heyyy
me: whats up
her: nothing much, you?
me: nm, bored
me: you going to <party>?
her: nope
her: take me lol
her: im <her name>
me: heh, good introduction
her: hahahahah
<Me introducing myself with some C&F>
me: so <party> is this sunday
me: we're gonna go
her: what time?
<I explain where/when all that stuff>
her: whats your last name?
me: stalker!
me: lol ;)
me: <my last name>
her: haha send me ur myspace again
me: yet again, stalkerrr
her: hahahhaa shh
me: i knew it
me: i'm so smart
me: so it definetly isn't <myspace link>
her: haha thanks bud
me: alright, i gotta go
her: alright peaceee ttyl
me: whats your number? i'll call you about <party> later

<Couple minutes pass>

me: you there?
me: alright, w/e
me: i'm out

<I leave, when I come back I see...>

her: hhhh
her: agggfuhfighfdsg
her: <her number>
This is probably one of the hottest chicks I've seen, never mind actually had a chance with, and she asked me to take her to the party.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I didn't think the wait rule applied for instant messenging but I could see how it works in that situation also.

A few suggestions:

-You should have tried to get her phone number instead of screen name.

-When she said, "nothing much, you" rather than saying, "nm, bored" you might have tried a different response. I suggest you should have said something like, "Oh I just got back from some errands" or "I am about to head out". This will spark interest, she will most likely ask you where did you get back from, or where you are going to go out. At this point you can keep the game going by not letting her in on what you did / are going to do (even if it's not true).

If she kept on persisting on the above topic, you could also throw in some more of the C&F stalker stuff you were using.

And I just forgot what I was going to say after this so...I will edit it if I remember.
 

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The conversation sounds AFC to me, you had a little c&f but it was more like s&r (stupid and rediculous). Well tell us how the party goes.




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TheNewGuy

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Thanks for the advice. I'll remember that "just heading out" line. IMHO, if it's C&F or S&R or S&M or D&Z, I still got the number, and a hottt date to a party.

To each his own, I guess.
 

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Nah, it doesn't sound AFC. AFC is a state of mind, not a classification of actions.

If you re in a DJ state of mind, you can't make an AFC move, because it takes an AFC to pull an AFC move. But the question is are you a DJ?

But yeah sounds like you could hook up with her at the party.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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