antidonjuan
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Is saying "happy birthday" to a pretty girl an AFC move or a warm statement?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Saying happy birthday: An AFC Move?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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come on, i mean... seriously?
it doesn't matter if it's DJ or not. it's a nice gesture that everyone can appreciate.
just make sure you find out its her birthday in a non-stalkerish way.
it doesn't matter if it's DJ or not. it's a nice gesture that everyone can appreciate.
just make sure you find out its her birthday in a non-stalkerish way.
MotownMack
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LOL. You're joking, right?
You should not be asking this question at 126 posts, but at least you have the appropriate user name.
No it's not AFC or DJ, it's called basic manners. It could be a decent way to open a conversation if you branch out from there, but by itself it's unlikely to help you or hurt you.
You should not be asking this question at 126 posts, but at least you have the appropriate user name.
No it's not AFC or DJ, it's called basic manners. It could be a decent way to open a conversation if you branch out from there, but by itself it's unlikely to help you or hurt you.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Pointless question, and I know you're not serious. You're either stupid or just bored.
Deadly_Assassin
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whos got the troll spray?
Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
ARrocket
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There is NOTHING AFC about saying happy birthday.
It's not saying "Happy Birthday," it's how you say it. Your body language , vocal tone and subcommunication has to be strong and you have to be on your A-game.
You also have to calibrate properly
You can get away with saying "Happy B-day" to a HB 10 or HB 9 and even some HB 8s.
But for HB 7s and lower, I recommend the proper "Happy Birthday." They're not as used to Don Juans approaching them as much as HBs 8 and up.
You also have to calibrate properly
You can get away with saying "Happy B-day" to a HB 10 or HB 9 and even some HB 8s.
But for HB 7s and lower, I recommend the proper "Happy Birthday." They're not as used to Don Juans approaching them as much as HBs 8 and up.
ezily
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It can be AFC. If you do it over facebook or myspace that is lame. If you send a text that is lame. If you send an email that is lame. If you write a message more that happy birthday that is lame.
So the best way to do it is in person. Just be cool and smooth about it. It's fine if you do it this way. Also, don't make it seem like you went out of your way. AND don't buy her flowers or any of that other sh1t.
btw, the reason I'm against the internet thing is because EVERY loser AFC does it. I mean just look at some of the walls of hot girls. You'll see guys posting lame and retarded comments ALL the time. It makes me cringe when I see that stuff.
So the best way to do it is in person. Just be cool and smooth about it. It's fine if you do it this way. Also, don't make it seem like you went out of your way. AND don't buy her flowers or any of that other sh1t.
btw, the reason I'm against the internet thing is because EVERY loser AFC does it. I mean just look at some of the walls of hot girls. You'll see guys posting lame and retarded comments ALL the time. It makes me cringe when I see that stuff.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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hah good one!Max Power said:
Damn!
:crackup:
If you say something to get approval - AFC.
If you say VERY NICE something because someone deserves it - Right.
If you say something to make someone happy but don't really want approval- Right!
Be nice often!
:crackup:
If you say something to get approval - AFC.
If you say VERY NICE something because someone deserves it - Right.
If you say something to make someone happy but don't really want approval- Right!
Be nice often!